A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My husband and I just got married last year but we had a long relationship before that.We are expecting our first child and everything seems to be great. The only thing I just can’t understand about him is that he keeps having fake Facebook accounts and I found messages from another woman in the Facebook account calling him with his real name.He must have about 3 fake accounts plus the one which I know about that is not fake, it is his real one and I know also the email and password.I also found messages from the same woman in this account too. We fight many times about this issue but he doesn’t seems to stop or understand how much it hurts me when I know that the man. I think he needs to be honest to me. Yet he keeps so many secrets.. Instead of me being angry when I show him the messages he get angry and doesn’t speak to me.He says it is not mine, it is a friend of mine and never even says one sorry.. Many times I said ok never mind but it really hurts. I think he is a good person I know he loves me, that he tries for our life, he cares about me and the baby.Yet he is not changing anything from what he is or he doesn’t make changes in his appearance or doesn’t do thing that he never did before, but I can’t understand why he need to have fake FB accounts Des it make him to feel more man? Is it that I don’t have something that he asks and he tries to find it from that, I really can’t understand that.... Please help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2013): He sounds very immature and most guys at his age are.. However he had made a baby and needs to grow up a bit.. Fake Facebook accounts are not good and neither is his lying about them.. If he can't be honest with you, then you may have to be honest with yourself ..Sit back down with him and make sure he understands how hurtful and dishonest he is being keeping these accounts and talking to a female you do not know .. Either he stops doing this for the sake of his relationship with you and marriage or you will need to consider what else this would led to and you may have to considering going to your parents for a while for him to revalueate what he truly wants .. You can't keep on like this sweetie, you have you and your baby to think of ..
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 March 2013):
 A good basis for any relationship is communication. You both need to be able to talk about things. If you are not able to do that then the relationship will not work the best that it can be. Therefore you need to talk to him about it and ask him why he feels he needs the fake accounts. It sounds strange to me that someone would want fake accounts, it is almost like he is trying to be someone that he is simply not. Maybe he is feeling a bit over whelmed being married and having a child on the way. You need to talk to him in a relaxed atmosphere without shouting or raising your voice and be firm with him and show him how important this is to you.
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