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writes: My wife and I got legally seperated almost three months ago she has a daughter that I have known since she was 10 months old and is now 5 yrs old. I found out the other day from her daughter that my ex-wife is hanging out with another guy. when I asked her about it she said they were more like friends than anything else but i found out from other people that is not true. Why would my ex lie to me rather than tell me the truth?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2006): It maybe helping her but it isnt you!You must sit down and talk to her about how you feel towards her.If you dont, you may be getting your wires crossed and feel that she may wants you back,when she doesnt.If she wants you back she will tell you.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (17 January 2006):
 Well there could be a number is reasons. could be she doesnt want to hurt you, she still cares for you or maybe she isnt accertained yet what this guy means to her. She could be seeing him as a friend for now and probably havent crossed the friendship barrier yet. Everyone could be speculating becos she and this guy might really close. This doesnt mean they are going out.
If u still love this woman despite your separation maybe u should tell her so that u dont loose her. See if there is still something there. what are u going loose anyway.
All the best.
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reader, Keleez +, writes (17 January 2006):
Your ex wife may lie about this new man in her life because she doesnt want to hurt your feelings as your break up is only recent. Some people find new relationships very soon after their last 1 ends for a number of different reasons i.e loneliness, fear of being alone or just the plain fact that she has already moved on
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (17 January 2006):
 Maybe the cold hard truth is that she still loves you and doesn't want you to be dissapointed in her. Alot of my x's lie about their current boyfriends for fear I will dissapprove of the relationship. I do, but I don't tell them that. I want their current boyfriend to treat them good. In my mind I never want their boyfriend to be better than me (at anything); but the harsh reality is that if I were really that good, maybe I could have saved the relationship. I know it hurt's when they hide things, but they may secretly want you back too. You could sit her down and have a serious talk about your feelings towards her dating and how you feel. I'm just amazed that your still close enough to her to find this out. I think she really cares what you think.
Good luck
Ed
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou see i still love her and I treat her daughter as if she were my own and when I go over there to pick her up my ex and I laugh and smile. even when shes having problems i will offer to help out(money,fixing things in house etc) am I a fool or do you think this may be helping?
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