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writes:I'm an older woman dating a much younger man. I am in my 40's and he's in his 20's. Actually he is 27. We met online about five months ago. We met face to face about 2 months ago. I like him a lot and he tells me that he likes me too. Most of the time he shows me that he cares for me but heres the problem, I don't get to see him on holidays. He has 3 children by 2 different mothers and he has told me that he still spend time with one of his babys mother but that he don't love her anymore. I see him at least twice a week sometimes more but twice a week is the norm. He has introduced me to his mom and dad, other family members and friends and he tells them that im his woman or his lady. And when we are alone the sex is just great between us. Otherwise we get along really good and he calls me regularly, almost daily or thoughout the day. So is he still with her? Is that why he can't spend the holidays with me?
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reader, raina18 +, writes (18 January 2011):
raina18 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to thank everyone who responded to my question and provided me with some good answers. UPDATE: Me and my boyfriend are still seeing each other and we are getting closer so time will tell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Its dating meaning guy hits it with anyone he wants and feels no guilt and if you were the only one he wanted to hit it with it would be called a commitment. thats what commitment and dating mean to men. Long distance is dating to a man (read: sex when he can get it). Men spending holiday with ex lover means they are still lovers or he wants to be. What is he doing the other five days of the week..you are not his lady if this is all he sees of you. Older woman to a man this age means no drama and not likely to slash his tires when she finds out she's not the only one. Most people have custody arrangements except those still involved.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (8 January 2011):
He might still have something going on with one of his baby mamas, but it is also possible that he's telling the truth and he just wants to be around his kids for the holidays. He did introduce you to his family which is a good sign.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): He may need to spend time with his child. But older woman with younger man of this much age difference seems not normal. This type of relation is good only for the sex part. I doubt if it could last long. Anyhow be prepared for the worst which is likely to happen. I guss you look sexy and younger than your age plus good in bed.
Some guys enjoy having sex with older women but not fall in love.
Take care
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (8 January 2011):
 There really isn't enough here to answer your question, definitely.
This one is going to boil down to trust and what sort of relationship you have. Are you friends with benefits or are you progressing to something more serious with potentials of getting married? What do you want and what sore of rules have you set for your relationship.
If this guy is on the up and up, I am willing to bet that he is indeed spending the holidays with his kids. They are probably young and the holidays are a magic time for them and he is doing his best to make them "family time".
Unfortunately, you are sharing your man with his children and at this young age, his children come first. If this isn't going to work out for you, then its best to find someone else with less baggage.
Perhaps at this stage of the relationship, he isn't comfortable sharing you with his kids. You may need to work through that and start to involve yourself with his kids. Again, it all depends where you think this relationship is heading.
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