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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for six months and he told me that he's never felt this way about anybody before. Although he doesn't get me flowers or gifts like my previous boyfriends did, he's treated me better than all of them. We've met each others families and we always have fun together. I really do like him and I think he may even love me. He always holds me and kisses me, calls me everyday just to say that he misses me and says I'm the best girlfriend in the world. He is really sensitive and he's been really hurt in the past (just like me) but if he really loves me, I would like for him to say it. I know I can just say it to him but I'm very traditional when it comes to male/female relations and I think the man should make the first move. So is he just nervous or am I wrong about this whole thing?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 April 2011):
 My boyfriend cannot say "I love you" it's just not something he can do. He has his reasons and I do not push him. The funny thing is I have always NEEDED a man to tell me he loves me to feel it but after my last husband who said it all the time it got old.
Now, the man I am with can't say it. he will say IWU in text to mean I WANT YOU to my ILY (I love you) and has made it clear he will not/cannot say I love you. and that in the past he's had relationships that ended because he can't say it..
He has said it on occasion to me... after I have said it to him.. it's "love you too" and i find it means so much more to me now to hear it occasionally or see it in an email... it's almost become a joke to us...
BUT I look at what he does... how he treats me, how often he calls me, texts me, or emails me, does he introduce me to his friends or tell them about me? how about his family, have i Met them.. do they know about me....
things this man does tell me totally how he feels about me... and that for some reason with this man is enough...
IF you need to hear I LOVE YOU and he is not a man to say it then you need to decide if it's a deal breaker.
AND if you love him you should tell him.... maybe he's scared to tell you afraid you don't love him.... I know my saying it first to my man let him start having the feelings he was fighting surface....
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reader, Patriot +, writes (20 April 2011):
I told a woman one time that I loved her. She said she loved me, too. Then she decided that I was holding her back in life, moved away, and never talked to me again. I guess I was a sucker. I should have let her make the first move.
I found out later that she was in love with 2 other men throughout the relationship. She was the only girlfriend I have ever had. And I really did love her. She said she wanted to be friends, but I knew I would be jealous. She was mine, and I didn't want to share.
I hope this helps.
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