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writes:Me and the ex where together for 16 years married for 13 of them, two girls aged 15 and 10, I'll be the first to admit we've had your up's and down's over the years but when we where good there wasn't anything better but when bad nothing worse but we used to have fun together and in a way that helped even things out but over the past 18 months or so that fun stopped and things started to get on top of me, it was just one thing after another and every thing I lost was getting worse, starting with my car then my job. I got another which only lasted 4 months. This I could handle but then in March last year the ex lost her dad and I was there standing by her in what ever way I could, even if was just someone to let steam off on I took it and then in August last year I lost my dad out of the blue, fit and well one minute, gone the next and they say it comes in threes. Four days later I lost my mum and she left not six months after this because there was no more laughter and she would even sit down to see if we could at least save a friendship. I still love her and want her back. Why when she turned her back on me at my lowest ever point do I still want her??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): because you obviously still love her...which is natural. when you have been with someone for so long and it ends abruptly...you can't just instantly turn off your feelings like a switch. The only thing that heals a broken heart is time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): Your knowere near nuts love very strong is what I would say TAKE CARE GLAD I COULD HELP LOVE MANDY XXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank's for that at least now i know i'm not totally off my rocker..ken x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): Hi hunny,
This is very sad, for both of you hunny, Everyone has ups and downs in married life it cant be 24/7 fun as resposibility takes over with a family. But after what you and your wife have been through, You lost both your parents so close together and with your wifes loss and trying to come to terms with all this going on around you I would think it very hard to say the least to get through each day let alone try and find time for fun and laughter,
Its a year now for you this month and I have been having bereavment counselling and I have been going through a hard time my counsellor told me the first year is really bad, have you seen a counsellor?
You and your wife had been together along time. Although you both are not seeing things the same way at this moment you love her these feelings dont just leave because the person did, You have lost many loved ones in a short period of time, Even though she wasnt there for you, your love is strong if you truely love someone its unconditional and she was the one that saw what you went through the closest person to you thats probably why your feeling this way.
There isnt just one issue here there are many for you to deal with and we can only take so much, To work through one at a time hunny you need to heal, If you havent spoken to anyone your going to let to much build up you really need to see a counsellor for your own health.
Work one day at a time is there anyone who you are close to a friend who you can confide in?
I presume you still have contact with your ex for the girls, so seeing her hurts if your feeling this way.
I feel you have had so very much hurt in such a short period of time that its time to take care of you, all your feelings are natural its your family.
I hope you can get the help you so need PLEASE TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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