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writes: Why is there so much pressure on me to compare myself with others or evaluate myself by giving an analogy of being like someone, as if being like someone who is considered as superior increases my own self-worth as a human being. Without it, I really have no existence of my own, I feel so bad and ashamed about my self that it is better to look outside to get reassurance from someone who is considered as being better or superior in context of the social standards. What can I do to make these people feel a little better about themselves? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): Hi hun,
Your question is abit baffling to me... You seem to have no self worth unless you look outside of yourself to others who appear as being better or superior to you, yet you want to help these people feel better.... Now i may have got all this wrong and do correct me if this is so... But it all appears a little confusing, First i believe there is no one person out there better or worse than one another, We all have different ways of dealing with certain pressures in life be it the millionaire down the road or the man on the street with no home... To make yourself happy and content you have to look deep within as not one person has led a completely perfect life everyone has made mistakes and that is the way we learn and grow, To conpare oneself to another will just bring unhappiness and discontentment...You have to feel good about yourself to allow others to see you for the person you really are and I believe that people will like and have respect for you as that person, You can help and advise people if they wish for your help and guidance but you can not change a persons views or beliefs, It sounds to me as if you are putting to much pressure on yourself to become what others expect you to be, and that can in the long run be self destructive, You have to help yourself before you can help others.. take care of you as a person and accept the person within hun...I apologies if i have that totally wrong. TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXX
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