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writes: I have an ex who has stayed in touch from time to time. We broke up in Dec - it was amicable, he broke it up, it was a LDR. Anyway I am wondering why he is staying in touch - I usually wait until he contacts me first and then reply politely. He usually just texts quite short texts, also I have given him more detail than he has and should really break all contact completely and not think of ever responding! I have now find out he is using a dating website so why would he be interested in staying in touch? What are his motivations? What does he really want?!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, nope I will never see him again anyway! I notice he has not used the dating site for a few days now so I wonder if he has met someone? ah well - good luck to her whoever she is - hope she knows what she is getting into??!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): Be careful with him. He sounds like he's a player which means he's high risk std material. If I were you, I would never have sex with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, no contact is the best way, thanks! Well, I shall try and be strong and resist the temptation to text back if he texts. You're right, if he really wanted me back he would take every effort to make it work, and he certainly wouldn't be looking elsewhere for something else. It's weird to think how quickly he can go from one relationship to the next - I just think he must be quite insecure and like you say, he made contact with me to relive his guilt - yea I see that now! Anyway, I wouldn't want someone like him back - he was a bit half assed during the relationship anyway!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): A lot of guys pull out the "Lets still be friends card" and he randomly calls you for several reasons. It could be because he feels shitty for hurting you and thats the way he deals with the guilt of hurting you, he could be trying to keep open the door so he could score some easy sex when he needs (Booty call), and also he could be hoping that he could keep you as a second choice if the current girl is dating doesn't work out. He's keeping his options open. DON'T TAKE THE BAIT.
if he really wants you back his actions will not be half-assed. he'll be calling you on the phone, coming by your house, sending flowers, gifts calling your friends....getting you to talk to him. emails and texts are lazy communication. And require very little effort, and are less devastating for rejection VS a phone call or an unplanned visit.
And don't worry about why he's doing this, the thing to remember is that Assclowns do this lame luke warm behavior because they can and because so many women have let them get away with trwating them like crap for years. Please be different, Move on with your life my dear you deserve better. No Contact is the best way to go. I am doing No contyact with my ex and after a month he's sent me flowers for vals day, my birthday, several gifts including perfumes, invitation to dinner, clothes, emails cards, numerous voicemails and notes at my door. No contact is the only way!
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