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writes: Hi, well i never thought that i was going be here writing you this. Im really desperate. The problem here is that i met a guy like 3 months ago, he was so into me, but i decided not to take things seriously because he was far away, he was so into me and calling me and everything and telling me that he can move to the same city for me if everything works out between us. So i gave himself and myself a chance, he told me like if everythings works out in 3 months we can be together and we can try seeing each other very often. We had a fantastic weekend the first time that i went to see him and then he came and was fantastic too. The thing is that after being with him, i was a little bit jealous because this long distance relationship makes me so jealous. So i have been making troubles and telling him that its over that i can handle it, because he doesnt answer my text messages and i feel insecure and i feel like he is with somebody else, and also when i go to see him, is the same, if he looks at someone i got insecure and make troubles. The thing is that when i told him that its over and i hung up on him, and i told him like 3 times before, because i couldnt handle it. i regret 5 minutes afterthat and i called him again and he told me, no its over. So after that we broke up and he is in his city and im here.we havent seen each other and i know that because he is very upset he says that he thinks its not going to work. I call him everytime and text him, he answers me very cold, or sometimes all right. I always call him, he says he is going to call me back, and he doesnt do it. but when i call him he asks me, did u go out last night?. on saturday he called me two times and text me what are you doing? but i didnt go out. we are going to see each other soon because he is going to move here, not because of me, because he planned everything so he cannt just quit that. And also because he planned to come to myu city before and i was the last thing to come here. So, we havent seen each other since we broke up and he doesnt know and sometimes he says that he thinks its not going to work, that he loves me, but he cannt be in love with me anymore. so what should i do? we are going to talk soon face 2 face, but he doesnt seem very exciting on coming here anymore. The weird thing is that he was so into me at the beginning and now suddenly everything changed. what can i do to get him back? do u think after seeing each other face 2 face he is going to change his mind? Why is he acting like jealous if he doesnt want to be with me? does he still care about me? he is acting sometimes jealousy about me, like what u doing , and stuff (only when i go out). please help me im so desperate!
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (28 December 2006):
 Your talk face to face will be very important to establish what it to happen.
He is hurt about you pushing him away, probably explains why he is cold sometimes.
It is possible to love someone and not be in love with them anymore. But if he is jealous still, he may be just confused about what to do.
If you decide to give it a go, be strong and to not cause trouble again. That goes for the both of you.
Good luck xxx
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