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writes:Is it wrong to ask/wonder when, how, if I'll ever meet a girl who wants to get to know me, date, hold hands, etc...? It's coming up to my birthday and I've just been thinking more about it since summer is right around the corner and it would be nice to perhaps finally have a girlfriend. At this point I'm having a hard time knowing if love exists for me because I'm so used to seeing how easy it is for my friends, they have been dating someone for awhile, or they have enough luck not spending too much being single for very long. It just seems like any attempt I make is in vain. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I've been able to technically buy one girl a few years back a smoothie, and we more or less just hung out as friends. But unfortunately, she's not around anymore. Few months back I finally met a girl after talking for awhile on zoosk, but the next Friday we were supposed to have our date, it was called off because of a loss in her family. I've tried dating sites, I'm signed up again on zoosk for the 4th time now. But I want to say if anything I've never really had a technical date? And before random luck on some dating sites (ice prob tried them all, and got my refund back somehow) before the dating sites I was probably averaging asking 20+ girls out any chance I got, my usual answers were no reply, dead stare, "no thanks", "I'm a lesbian","I have a bf","I'm engaged, (yet they didn't have a ring lol), there's the rate chance that I get a phone number, and idk if it's to the point that the girl leads me on and doesn't respond back, so I assumed that she just blocked my number? But yeah I'm getting very confused, very sad, I feel like not having the college party experience really delayed my progress. I would try the speed dating, but idk how well that would work. I would feel more comfortable if I met a girl in my same situation, approaching relationships in a fresh point of view, I just don't know if it's real, if I'm going to be the only one with no dating experiences, drama from a past ex to shape me, and she's probably been through so much in a short amount of time from a guy/guys that she will most likely have a tough point of view, not willing to let me talk, or etc... Idk. Guess what I mean to say is, I doubt there's a girl my own age just looking for her first b/f, if anything the norm today I figure she's just going to want to settle down when I'm just trying to start out
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reader, Levsn  +, writes (12 March 2014):
You know, I am, to some degree, in a similar position and around your age. The only difference between me and you is that I am dating someone, maybe not succesful, but a date is a date and gives experience. I've found my date through dating sites, as I live in a rather boring, little town where there's nothing to do. The chance of finding someone on a dating site is low, took 4 months until I found someone who at least seems interesting, ironically it was her who contacted me first.You should try online dating, it won't guarantee success, but it's better then nothing. Also, watch out for a lot of fake profiles.The other option would be joining sport clubs which you are interested in. I'll soon join a dancing club, as I am interested in learning a few styles, it's fun to dance.tl,dr:Join dating sites or clubs which you enjoy and see if youj'll find someone there who looks interesting and get to know them better and ask them out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2014): This is going to sound cheesy.Love exists for everyone.Have you asked out the girl you like?What is stopping you?I am sure there are girls at work or girls you know in friends circle etc.Take a chance on love..
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 March 2014):
 In order to answer your question, I need to know this: how many women have you asked to be your girlfriend?
It's a matter of math, you have to ask this and that many before someone says yes. So, if you want to know how long it will take, I first need to know how far you've gotten.
If you haven't directly asked anyone to be your girlfriend, directly asking someone out on a date also counts. It's the same thing, it takes so and so many before someone says yes. So how many have you asked on dates so far?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2014): Agree with Baby Doll. But I think you need to find a girl who has something in common with you, it makes it easy and less awkward if you want to be more than just friends. Don't compare yourself to your friends, remember that women sometimes like a guy who is different from the norm. Lastly, you should'nt feel pressurized to be in a relationship just because all your friends are. Sometimes being patient has its rewards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2014): It's a reasonable question, have you considered asking your friends for advice? Perhaps change the way you approach a girl? Are you an outgoing person, perhaps you are shy?
Everyone has someone out there, and you're no different. You'll find someone, you just have to keep searching, be positive and careful about what you say.
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