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writes: hello i am a 21 year old male my fiance is 19 and i have a few simple questions that i have been racking my brain trying to figure out i have about drove myself to the point of crazy !!!! anyways me and my fiance have been togather for 5 years we have a 8 month old boy and well things just seam like they are falling away well for her not me i still hang on and try my best to make her happy or even try and get some type of affection out of her but she ALWAYS pushes me away !!! we use to have a great relationship eveen after the baby was born we had a great relationship but now it just seams like she is getting more distant by the day !!! i mean i try and kiss her she dosent i try and lay with her she gets up no matter what it is i do she pushes me away and as i said she is getting distant by the day !!!! i have been trying to figure out what is with her but she wont talk to me !!! im not sure what to do anymore i just dont feel the love i once did i mean i know she loves me and cares for me but y dose she treat me with such a cold shoulder ??? PLEASE if there is someone out there who can explain to me y she is like this please do !!!
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reader, deamon +, writes (30 September 2006):
deamon is verified as being by the original poster of the question well we are doing a little better now we have talked it over and we decided to make time for just me and her to spend togather !!! i hope it works thank u toria for all the info !!! i guess i was just getting to the point were i was stressing it to much !!!! but ill keep u posted on how it is going !!!!
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reader, Toria +, writes (29 September 2006):
 Sorry I wasn't implying to didn't help I was just stating how I felt when it was me and covering all bases with what you posted.
I think the only option you have now is to talk to her and tell her how you are feeling, you sound like you are doing everything you can to help if not more so the problem can't lie there.
The longer the problem is left the more distant she will get and the harder it will be for you to pull the relationship back out of the place it seems to have ended up.
Good luck, keep me posted :o)
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reader, deamon +, writes (26 September 2006):
deamon is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i dono what else to do with it i mean i have tried everything i know i even watch the baby most the time for her when she is home !!! i mean it isant like she dosent have the help to get things done !!! she has the time she isant busy ina day while she is off work !!!
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reader, Toria +, writes (25 September 2006):
I can't tell you why she is doing this as only she knows that.
Although I know when my baby hit the age of 7 months I started pushing away anyone close to me and started shutting myself off from people, I didn't realise I was doing it until someone pointed it out to me, I'm still not 100% sure why I did it but I know as the baby was getting older and more mobile my days seemed so hectic and I just didn't seem to stop, it was only at that point that I started to realise that my life was constant baby baby baby and I just felt like I was going out of my mind with a million things to do, not enough time to do them in and everytime I started one thing the baby wanted my attention or something else, mixed with the fact I hardly left the house or had just any time to myself so the little bit of time that wasn't filled with doing something for the baby I wanted to be left alone, I'm not saying this is the problem but I know for me it was.
I would talk to her and see if there is anything else you can do to help her and explain to her how you are feeling but obviously treading careful as if she is feeling the pressures of motherhood she may lash out feeling you don't understand.
Good luck :o)
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