| A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: My ex has added me on Facebook,but he has a girlfriend. I can't understand why he has added me?.We dated for a few months in 2004,then we didn't see each other again till 2005,and during some of the time in 2006.It was strange,because we didn't actually break up,we just drifted apart.He would go months without contacting me, then text me out the blue asking what i had been up to,and saying that he still fancied me.When i told him i had been to some concerts and on holidays, he would ask who i went there with and say he wished he had been there with me.Last May, he text me asking to meet up, but i didnt meet him.I bumped into him in a nightclub in July.I said hi to him, he said hi back but just walked past me and didnt talk to me any more.I bumped into him again in September.This time,he was sat down with one of his male friends.I went over to him,but he didnt seem like it wanted to talk to me.He walked away from me at one point when his phone rang.I went back to my friends for abit and then later i got talking to him again.he said he was going to the bar,but me and his friend noticed he had been gone abit too long.We went outside to look for him, and saw that he was walking home.We tried shouting to him, but he didnt turn around.I hadn't had any more contact with him until today when he sent me the friend request.I added him,but now i'm not sure if i should have.I'm wondering if he has added me so that he can rub it in about his new girlfriend, or just to be nosey and see what i'm up to,or does he still fancy me even though he has a girlfriend ?.I thought he might have wanted me back, or might have wanted to be friends.I was upset when he did that to me when i bumped into him,and was even considering ignoring his friend request at first, and i wasn't bothered about him before he sent the request.But now that i have had contact with him again, i feel like i want to go back with him.I have seen comments from people making jokes on his page too saying that he goes with different women.I hope that isn't true though.What do you think about him ?.
View related questions:
facebook, has a girlfriend, my ex, on holiday, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): ON facebook we add everyone, and your exes just to check that your life is funner tahn yours.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): about the other women,someone had left a comment on this photo of him on his mobile asking if the person on the phone was one of the women he sees,sounded like they were being jokey but i dont know,and then he said something like he was a good person and he has a past that he wasnt proud if.i certainly didnt know about any sort of past when i met him or other times when he saw me after that !.mind you he was 19 when i started seeing him.The thing is,his girlfriend posted a comment there,so if its true of him seeing other women,surely she doesnt approve of that ?!.I dont think she would like him adding me either,if she knew who i was.i know some women dont like their boyfriends adding their exes.
I'm not exactly sure if she is his girlfriend.they are flirty with each other.his relationship status is set to married,but he put in a comment that it was a joke,as he didnt want to have to keep switching his status from single to in a relationship.so that sort of says sometimes he is with someone and sometimes he isnt.
I will have calmed down by tomorrow or in afew days lol.it was just a shock when i got the request,and i've had mixed feelings about it.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): I'm wondering whether to delete him, but then that might look daft after i have added him.I just dont think it will make me feel any better looking at his page.The thing is,if he wasnt bothered about me in some way,even as a friend,why would he want to know what i am up to ?.If i am over someone and i'm not bothered about what they are doing, i dont add them.
Yes i know some people add people they dont know,but in this case,he does know me.Plus i only add people i dont know if we share the same interests or if they are a friend of a friend or friend of a relative e.t.c.
I dont know why i am bothered about him really,as i didnt like it when he used to go months without texting me,as i said,neither of us really dumped the other.In fact,i feel sorry for his girlfriend,he'll probably do the same thing to her !.The only reason i added him is because we did have some good times when we actually did see each other.
On the other hand,it's good to rub it in on what i have been getting up to !.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Facebook has an Import Friends function that hooks into your email and sends a friend request to everyone you have ever emailed (it's not automatically like that, but it's not hard at all to have this happen). He may not even be aware he sent you a friend request.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): I think you're searching for something that just isn't there. He not only has a girlfriend but he was the one to break up with you and he is also seeing different women, real winner if you ask me. He doesn't talk to you when he runs into you, doesn't pay much attention to you, etc. Then he adds you on facebook and you think there's some big meaning behind it? I'm not saying all this to be harsh but seriously, there's got to be other things or other guys you can spend your time wondering about.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): like people have said, its facebook, a lot of people add people they do not even know, i know i have a lot of requests off strangers. but in your case... theres been many times old friends who i havent spoken to or seen for years add me, its a good way of keeping in touch or catching up. i really wouldnt look too much into it, he probably saw you in the "friend suggestion" section and wanted a nosey at what you are up to these days. youd put him behind you so just because you can now see his page dont feel like you want him, he has a girlfriend, it would be unfair on her!! 15 year olds would worry and think too much about situations like this, you seem more mature though. dont think about it so much
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): As i said, i didnt want to go back with him before,but now that he has added me,i feel like i want to.I had forgotten about him until today.Plus there may be a reason behind him adding me,or there may not.I wish i knew which it was.
He isnt exactly out of my life if he is on my facebook page.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): its facebook! there's no big deal there! x
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): So? People on facebook often add anyone they know and sometimes people they don't even know. It's really no big deal so I wouldn't make it one. Sounds like he's moved on and likes female attention even though he has a girlfriend. Why do you care if he goes with different women now that he's your ex and out of your life? You are giving him too much attention over something that probably means very little to him in the overall big picture of things.
...............................
|
