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writes:The other day I spent alot of time doing my hair for my boyfriend to look good for him and he didnt even notice! what is with that? I only had to point out the fact that I had spent ages on making an effort to look good for him and only after that did he say I looked pretty. I think alot of women probably have this issue, but tell me men why could you be so insensitive? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): It's not about insensitivity, how often does your boyfriend spend ages doing up his hair to impress you? I suspect not a lot, you wanna know why? Because we couldn't give a crap about hair. Your hair, his hair, her hair or the hair on my dog.
To him you probably always look pretty, whether you've spend ages putting on make up, straightening and styling your hair or whether you've just woke up hungover after a crazy night out with makeup smeared all over your face, puffy, with your hair all over the place.
That's the trade off you see, we just see our women as beautiful, whether they've made an effort or whether they look like a mess. If you make an extra effort and you tell him, does he not show his appreciation? Then why do you feel cheated, just because he didn't notice out of his own volition.
Actually no, a lot of women don't have that problem. Most women you're talking about don't get any reaction at all even when they told their boyfriends. That's an actual problem, but what you're saying is normal.
If you want to get his attention then shave half your hair off and dye the rest green. Then shave his initials into your hair and dye them pink. Then get bits of leaves, twigs and dog food, mash it into a fine paste and shove that on your hair. That would work.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (14 August 2010):
 They notice, they definitely notice. They just don't know what it is they're noticing usually. Plus they've never done their hair really, so they have no idea it takes hours to make it look like that. As for make-up, most guys don't want to see it. They want to see that your eyes "mysteriously" look bigger and oh hey, your face looks smoother and more tan. But when it comes to crazy eyeliner and shadows, most guys don't like it. Like I said, they've never spent hours trying to look pretty so it doesn't cross their mind you've slaved away to look effortlessly beautiful. Plus this probably means he likes the way the way you look just as much when you don't spend hours getting ready. Try not to get angry about it. If you want him to notice, try pointing SOMETHING out. Like hey, how do I look? Notice anything? Guys just don't notice these things.
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