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writes:Hi guys! I haven't posted in a while, and regardless if that's good or bad, I do have something I want opinions or solutions on. Recently my mom has been making rude remarks to not only my boyfriend but also my sister's, and she also keeps saying she doesn't think we'll last or I should break up with my boyfriend.An example that really made me mad is one night I was playing a video game and I messed up and my character died. In a laughing/joking voice my boyfriend said something along the lines of "Pshh that was a fail!" and laughing along I said "I know I suck at games" We say things like that sometimes to joke and have fun, and my mom never said anything till recently when my boyfriend left the room and my mom said rudely "He needs to stop being mean to you, he's ruining your self esteem and making you think your a failure. I really think you should break up with him" I was completely taken aback by what she said, and wanted to cry. Everything she said is not true. Being told I'm bad at video games isn't going to ruin my self esteem as a person, and I don't feel like I'm a failure, especially when I want to be a chef when I grow up, not test video games or anything. Anyways, sorry for the rant, it just ticks me off :P I really just want to know how to deal with people like my mom. I tried talking to her, saying it was a joke, and she says ok that's fine, and then she finds another excuse to want me to break up with him. I can't understand why she doesn't want me to be with him?... Okay I'll stop ranting and freaking out, it just annoys me.Thanks for any help in advance!Molly
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): hey molly, welcome back :Dsomething's making your mother upset, or annoyed/angry whatever, it could be that shes a little sad that you're growing up and you've got a boyfriend, that's just the typical explanation, but some 'old fashioned' people work like that in their brains, my mother is like yours, i couldnt live without her, yet i moved out because it was impossible to live with her, :L i brought my girfriend back home once, to try and introduce them and my mother was really rude! indirectly, rather bitchy actually, and i talked to her about it, because she seems to change the moment i talk about gf's and sex and whatever, may i add, my mother and father had split up, so i was all she had, and we had a happy mother son relationship, but we came to the conclusion that she gets depressed thinking about me 'moving out' or getting a 'girlfriend' **BACK TO YOUR STORY** just talk to her, tell her how you feel about things, hopefully that should sort things out.
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