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*alibutfishnchips
writes:I met a guy last year around November at a gathering. He facebooked me afterwards and we started talking. He seems like an interesting guy and kind too. We exchanged long messages for days for about two weeks and he decided to ask me to go see a basketball game with him. I went to see it with him and then went out dancing with him afterward. We had a great time and kept on talking. I met all of his friends within the next two weeks we spent together. We never really went out on dates but he always took me to parties with his friends and we'd spend time together afterwards. We got physical and were pretty much together and then he left for Europe for 3 weeks. We exchanged emails once or twice a week while he was there and then he came back. I was very happy and asked when I could see him. We got together last Thursday and watched a movie. He spent the night and I haven't heard from him since...He's not particularly expressive with himself but he does seem to like me a lot. He gets a little nervous when he tries to hold my hand and smiles a lot. He told me about his family and about his dreams. We have nice conversations together. It felt deeper than just a random hookup and he even considered us to be dating. We only had sex maybe 3 times. When we had sex last Thursday, it was the first time at my house and half way, he lost his erection and couldn't get it up afterwards. We did other stuff and he made sure I had a good time and we went to bed.We woke up in the morning. I smile at him and he seemed really self conscious and couldn't really look at me in the eyes. Then he got up and apologized for his messy hair and said he should go move his car. We kissed and he left. Then I haven't heard from him since. I sent a few texts just to say Hi and an email whether he's doing well and that I haven't heard from him. Not a word... Why won't he contact me?
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reader, catwm102 +, writes (8 February 2010):
Ok may i add to your story but with a different twist. You actually might like it. I just went through the same thing....I really did. The guy Im talking about, I knew him for years but never hooked up. He would text me off and on but then i would't hear from him in weeks to months..He started to text me again New Years Day. He text the hell out of my phone every single day in January compared to the off and on weeks to months no hear. We really didnt physically hang out just text text text. So those text turned into sex text and i went along with the Cybersex shit. It was fun but a little bit. then I want to have real sex. These Cyber people are very weird...take from someone who knows NOW. Now I know..hahaha..Anyhow,he invited me over to his place after work one day....so i went over and the first thing he did was not look me in the eyes...Oh ladies that is a bad sign of NERVOUSINESS. I instantly felt like the head vampire that you dont invite into your house it realms you powerless effect. I know Im silly...so we sat on his couch and he was so nervous, no eye contact, he was even doing weird body motions of nervousness and as a proud female i remained cool calm and collected, BUT it was becoming very annoying..So i finally Said to him "Bill look at me". I even thought to myself, a long hard day i had, i guess there will be no sex with this nervous guy. So after I told him to look me in the eyes he did a 0 to 60 sec slid across the couch toward me and grip me against him, flipped me on top of my kissing me unhooking my bra trying all this crazy when animals attack tatics on me. I was VERY SURPRISED and i was shocked but secretly enjoyed it. So all the window shades were open in his place and i said can we go upstairs. So he dragged me up the steps and one of my shoes feel off on one of the steps. So in less then one second flat all my clothes and his were off. We jumped in the bed and i was like ROARRRR!!!!! So he was kissing touching my breat touching my vagina omg i was ready for rough sex. So my hand went to his penis and I was embarrassed for him and thought to myself, "WHAT IS THIS lITTLE THING and it was erect about 80%, I also thought, I am not going to feel this little thing either. Yikes tell me I got to fake an orgasism. i even oral sex him to help it out...NOPE it got smaller....his balls were even small...i said thats a bad sign for making kids. I know im horrible. So he just couldnt keep it erect and started mumbling things like, "this was a bad idea, Im nervous, I drank yesterday and i think thats why, Im overworked"....then that started making me feel bad...So i kissed him rubbing my body against his and i still could not feel his penis...i was losing the battle...so we laid there talking..then i started to look at the clock 400 times and he got fed up and said lets get dressed..we did..i got fully dressed and told him i got to go..he came over to me made out with me twice and i said maybe we should spend physical time together...he said ok and he seen in my eyes I was DISAPPOINTED...he texted me the next day but i was heading to the gym I called him driving to the gym. After the gym i text him back no reply for 1 week. So all in all he embarrassed and im disappointed, so whos the bad guy here. I did start to think crazy stuff like what did i do...Its not me HE's EMBARRASSED...and yeah i think you should call him...absolutely call him..text him...but girlfriend if he doesn't call you back...just think of all the other ladies he going to dissappoint with his little machine and find your self a Spartus warrior who will give it to you good..Take care LOVE The CATWOMAN....roarrrr
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reader, PunkyPippi +, writes (23 January 2009):
 He probably knows the mutual friend will say something about this, and he's just not ready to talk. Can you drop by where he lives and talk to him face to face? If not, I would just forward with your plan of action. I'm sorry.
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reader, halibutfishnchips +, writes (23 January 2009):
halibutfishnchips is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPunkyPippi: He's not even picking up the calls from a mutual friend. I think he's just down for some reason. He hasn't been active on facebook or chat programs either... Kind of just MIA. Yeah I'll give him til next week and if he doesn't say anything then I'll just move on...
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reader, halibutfishnchips +, writes (23 January 2009):
halibutfishnchips is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPunkyPippi: He's not even picking up the calls from a mutual friend. I think he's just down for some reason. He hasn't been active on facebook or chat programs either... Kind of just MIA. Yeah I'll give him til next week and if he doesn't say anything then I'll just move on...
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reader, PunkyPippi +, writes (23 January 2009):
He's embarrassed. I would call him and if he doesn't answer and doesn't call back, you only have a month invested so cut your losses and move on.
If you do get to talk, I would tell him that you care about him, and that you want to go on another date.
Don't bring up what happened unless he does, and if he does, do your best to reassure him that it wasn't a big deal.
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reader, halibutfishnchips +, writes (23 January 2009):
halibutfishnchips is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAhh Shaleen, I don't know why he's doing this. It's been a whole week and he hasn't gotten back to me besides Monday night when he replied "Good night" when I texted him good night... I want to talk to him but he won't reply my texts or emails and whatnot. I don't know what to do. And we weren't together for long (almost a month). I don't want to be pushy and keep bugging him.
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reader, shaleen +, writes (23 January 2009):
 He could just be emberassed about the night you two shared. He may have an erectile dysfunction that you're not aware of, and he hasn't told you. You know men, they pride themselves on their sexual performance. If he isn't able to perform the way he'd like, he may be suffering mentally, thinking that you may think differantly because of it. If you seriously care for him and don't mind that, then let him know honestly that you had fun with what you two did, regardless of what happened. ;)
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