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writes:I have a friend who is from South East Asia. She is 4 years older and I'm 25. I've known her for like 2 years now. She's always had this name that she calls me, I guess it's in her native language because I don't understand it.Recently though, in the past two months, she has, on more than one occasion, called me daddy. She claims that it was an "accident" and that she has no idea why she called me that, and that when she sees me, it just slips out. She also says she loves it when I yell at her and tell her what to do. I asked her straight up if she liked me, but she says only as a friend. I'm fine with that, but if she doesn't like me, why call me that? First time she said it, I was completely caught off guard. We were at work and out of nowhere those words come out of her mouth. I didn't know if she really said that or I was hearing things. Later I asked her and she said she did call me that, but doesn't know why she did. I think that's a lie, but I don't understand why you would call a friend daddy.
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (3 December 2016):
Does she keep on flirting with you when she calls you daddy? Point out how uncomfortable you feel when she calls you daddy. Maybe she thinks you two are doing a rp when she calls you daddy. My second dad calls me little bug and bug it doesn't bother me at all because I like that nick name he gave me. My bf calls me baby girl it doesn't bother me at all he use to call me Maggie when me and him used to be friends with eachother before we started dating eachother.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (23 November 2016):
I guess she did have daddy issues (or some sort of issues) and perhaps you seem like a role model figure in her otherwise crazy life. If she wants to really know why, she can see professional help. In your situation, there isn't much else you can do about it. It is weird, but if she has issues, she can't help it. I don't think there is much to worry about if she does not tell you anything more, after all you and I and not mind readers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, I've told her it's weird for her to call me daddy if all she wants to be is friends. She apologized and says she doesn't mean to call me that, it just happens and she doesn't know why she calls me that. That part is a lie. I feel like she is too shy or embarrassed to tell me the truth, because she gives me the same answer every time.
I don't condone cheating and it's wrong regardless of the reason, but she cheats on her husband because her husband won't have sex with her due to physical problems he causes to himself. She says she wouldn't cheat if she could have a sex life with him, because she loves him. She suggested an open relationship, and he said no. She sees other men to get the affection and attention that he doesn't. Me, I'm just the friend she calls daddy, for an unspecified reason.
I pick my friends well. You make a lot of assumptions about me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2016): You surely left out lot. She calls all men daddy; because she likes role-play and submission. During sex, women sometimes call you daddy, giving you the dominant and more aggressive role in the relationship.
You can't possibly be so naive. She's tagging you with daddy as an invitation into her little world of fun and games.
She's going to screw your mind up. You don't know how to choose your friends. She's bad news. Very bad news.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2016): your follow up post change the whole prespective.
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (22 November 2016):
Maybe she thinks you two are doing a role play what wise owl and brown wolf both said. When you yelled at her or give her commandments it reminds her how you're acting like a father to her even though you are younher than her. And she really likes you alot to call you daddy when you two talk and see each other. That is a bad situation that she is cheating on her husband with a lot of men. Have you told her how weird it is when she calls you faddy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's been married for almost 10 years and she cheats on her husband. The first time there was a guy she spoke with for months and then one day just have him a BJ, which she doesn't consider cheating, but she also had sex with another man years after. Now, she has a side boyfriend who she sleeps with, a sugar daddy, and I'm sure several other guys she is seeing while married. I know this because she vents sometimes. Despite all this, she feels guilty and terrible. I told her her ever decision is digging her deeper into a hole she can't climb out of.
Anyways. She loves sex, she's made that clear, but I haven't touched her. She's a great friend and She has been there for me, but that's it. If she wants more then she is either lying or this is her way of letting me know. I don't know. Maybe it is that I'm just dominant to her. But it's weird to call a friend daddy. In front of people, completely out of the blue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2016): You're younger than she is, but you may also have a dominant personality.
She likes when you take control and she thinks it's endearing when you tell her what to do, or raise your voice like a father would. It pleases her to be submissive, and the first word that comes to mind is "daddy."
You said that you are only friends. She may even have a secret partner (past or present) you are unaware of that she shared a role-playing game. You trigger the word "daddy" in her mind when you are aggressive, or come across a little macho. It's a slip of the tongue or a Freudian Slip as some might call it.
It's now becoming a pet name. She wants you to play a more dominant or forceful male-role in your friendship. It probably makes her feel safe and protected.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (21 November 2016):
She likes you a lot... Problem is...she wants you to make her like you, not just her saying it because you ask.
She calls you daddy because it's a sexual role play issue. Like a father would command a daughter to be obedient, and do what she is told to do.
You said it yourself.... " She also says she loves it when I yell at her and tell her what to do."
The rest is up to you.
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