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writes:my g/f reacts as if "i'm telling her what to do" in every possible situation that comes up..I say "hey , why don't you come up and go Christmas shopping near my house so we can spend some time together before the holidays", that is telling her what to do..She asks me to travel to see her more , so I make plans to do so and then she somewhat complains how crazy of a weekend it's gonna be and she's so stressed, ect.(she never cancels the plan, just injects even the most subtle thought that I may be part of that stress if i'm coming over)..i ask her to spend a little more time at my place and maybe consider leaving for work from there in the am, that is "telling her what to do", i say that she may be be going out with friends a little to often and it is starting to affect our relationship b/c we have so little time to spend time together,that is "telling her what to do"..basically she just seems to always say that the reason we fight, the reason why she gets upset sometimes is b/c she isn't used to someone "telling her what to do" wtf! I really do just bring stuff up sometimes like any committed couple does trying to make plans, trying to live a life together and it is "telling her what to do"..I mean i have tried it the nice way, the "lets talk about this" way, the "i need this to be in a relationship" way and we are still fighting about stuff..what is wrong with her honestly? does this girl just not like beiing told what to do in any , way, shape or form and any interference with that is seen as a threat? I mean when we first got into a relationship i remember her saying "you will never tell me what to do", it's been a year, i guess i should have taken that to mean exactly that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): Straight to the point, ditch now, DITCH HER NOW!!!. You really care about her, you deserve someone better, someone who cares about u. There r a million women out there waiting for someone to love, don't waste your time and love. She's not a reliable person.
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reader, jerrel +, writes (25 December 2009):
 dude, i feel your pain! my ex was JUST like that! when ever i said ANYTHING she would flip the fuck out! like people told me that she was cry after school, so i did the right BF move and went to see if she was ok, and some how after my first sentence(which was"hey i heard that you were upset after school, is everything ok baby?") she yelled in my face"why are you always in my bussnius?!?!?!?!? and just left me there, confused and very upset. and ive found that nopt matter WHAT you do, you cant fix crazy, im sorry to say it, but i think that shes a bit to far along for you to save buddy, if shes HALF as bad as my ex, she wil;l fuck your head up so hard it will fall off your shoulders.
i think the best thing to do is talk to her about it, and if she wants to be a bitch about it, ditch her, if she cant change for you in such a small way like that, she isn't worth the little time you have on this earth my friend
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