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36-40,
*ucumbernub
writes:Hi everyone, my girlfriend and I are currently on a break. A bit of background, we've been together 1 year 2 months and we had a very very happy relationship together. She's told me before that I'm the one for her and I feel the same way too, and honestly, we've talked about marriage as well. She's really really nice and everything that I'd ever wanted in a girl. We're both 22 and both of us have careers as well; I'm about to be a doctor, she's a scientist. Recently, for the past month, we've been arguing a lot. I was having exams and she has finished hers so naturally, we didn't spend much time together since she was having fun with her friends. This led to a patch of arguements and afterwards she left on a 10day trip with her friends. On the trip, we talked like normal but I noticed that there was perhaps something wrong. When she came back, we met up and she told me that she wanted a break.The reason why she wanted the break was that she's felt that I've treated her so well and been so nice to her she feels that she can't reciprocate her feelings and this makes her feel guilty. I tell her that what we've had the past year or so were more than what I could ask for but she said that she's capable of so much more. 3 months before, we also had this problem, her saying that she feels that she could love me more and she also wanted a break but that break didn't work because she called me and we went on a romantic holiday together.She says that she needs some time to herself and find out what she really feels about me because although she loves me, she wants to know if I'm 'the one' for her (even though she's said in the past that I am) as she doesn't want to hurt me because of her feeling like this. She says that it's hurting her to do this because she doesn't want to lose someone like me. I've given her the break she wanted and it's been 5 days but she still texts me and calls me although not a lot. We've met up once during that 5 days and she sometimes hugs me and holds my hand and kisses it. When I left, she said that everytime I leave it makes her feel sad.I just don't really know what to do. To me, she's really the love of my life and I'm afraid that this break may make her realise that she might not want me. I'm 100% positive that there's no other guy by the side, because she's not that type of girl. I'm just being torn so badly inside by this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2010): You are very sure she isn't open to the idea of messing with any other guys during this break. But just make sure she is clear on that too. If she won't agree to that rule out loud then you are in trouble. Ignore this subject at your own risk.
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reader, cucumbernub +, writes (15 July 2010):
cucumbernub is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm just very confused. If she texts me or calls me everyday, should I reply to them?
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reader, cucumbernub +, writes (15 July 2010):
cucumbernub is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm just very confused. If she texts me or calls me everyday, should I reply to them?
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