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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have ben friends with J for 5 years now and the past 2 years she has been quite horrible to me. Not all the time but sometimes.We are both in a relationship and she always compares my partner to hers. She comes out with 'How come you got the good one'?Both our partners work offshore. I sit at home and drop off and pick the kids up from school whilst she works part time in a greasy spoon part time. I try and be a good friend and help out when she needs me too but tries to belittle me infront of the customers. She hates it when i get new friends. She tries to find out about them or make on she knows them and try and tell me things about them. Most of them she's never spoken to before.I have what you would call a fuller figure and without sounding in love with myself i have a very pretty face. People always compliment me infront of her and she doesnt understand why they would do that when she is small and petite. Bitchy i know but i dont think she is attractive at all. I think she thinks because i am bigger noone should find me attractive.She always says to my partner he's a mug for not making me get a job. He doesnt want me to work, I am a housewife. I'm not the only person in the world to not have a job. I like being a kept woman. She has asked her partner if she can quit and he told her to wise up. She has a horrible relationship with her partner. They are always splitting up.Why does she try and hurt me? I havent done anything to her? We are not kids either - we are in our 30's!! None of my other friends are like this!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Jealousy. My advice is to keep your distance from her, she can be dangerous. You have a family to focus upon and definitely don't need this augmented stress of always trying to justify your "friend's" behaviour or worrying about her mischievous ways. Don't fuss too much over this issue, your husband will listen to you initially with ease but it can become unpleasant to see a partner fretting over her jealous friend on a daily basis. Maybe you aren't doing this but it will be none the worse for you if I included this part. When a person can affect one to be negative, worrisome, displeased, this can have an impact on one's other interactions, beware of that. Seek to conquer a positive state of mind that will help you through your daily duties and ease your tasks, inspire you in your marriage, etc. Shift your focus onto your other friends and especially your married life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Sweetie, this so simple..I can't believe you don't see it! She's jealous of you, plain and simple. You are happy, you have a nice guy, you are told you are pretty, and people like you. And your guy doesn't make you work. She's one of those people that can't be happy for someone else. And because she can be so mean spirited, she probably doesn't have many other friends, so she feels jealous if you make new friends. Have you ever heard the expression "With friends like this you dont need enemies"? I hate to tell you, but this is her.
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