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writes:When a man cheats (or the other way round) why does it take ages, sometimes, for the other personn to find out that they are having an affair. And when they do find out why may they give them another chance, possibly for them to cheat all over again?Is this more likely to happen in a long-distance relationship?
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reader, tommy2k7 +, writes (16 August 2007):
tommy2k7 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have just found out that my first ex has just been cheated on by the man she dumped me for!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): I am not sure it happens more in long distance relationships, however it is certainly easier for them to hide in a long distance relationship.
It is up to you whether you feel comfortable in giving them another chance. If you really think he'll do it all over again then don't give him another chance. The offer of a second chance is yours to give or not to give.
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reader, Dr. Mark  +, writes (16 April 2007):
Ususally the affair is suspected long before it is found out. The other spouse sees the signs, and sometimes her friends point them out. But she doesn't want to believe it. Often, the first step in any grieving process is denial. When someone gives the news that a loved one has died, the first reaction is, "NO! I won't believe it! You are lying!" With affairs, this denial causes the person to lie to themselves about what they are seeing. After a while, the cheating spouse's actions can become "normal".
Why do they stay? Everyone has their own reasons. Sometimes it's the time they've invested. It could be dependancy, it could be they love that person so much that they are willing to give them another go, etc. etc.
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