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writes:Why does it take people so long to get over someone and why do they hang around?Especially when they know the end isn't going to be pretty, or their isn't anything there.Nothing.I'm asking this from both prospectives.For example, there's a guy that has fallen for me hard. I think he knows I'm not interested (I have made it quite clear)Yet he still hangs around.Why?Another example,I have fancied a guy for (2 years). We reached what was suppose to be the "peak" of our relationship this summer and he left me feeling very dissapointed. It's obvious he wasn't interested and wouldn't be now. But why do I feel hopeful when he is mentioned , like something is going to happen between us when THERE WAS NO SUCH THING AND PROBABLY NEVER WILL BE. I hang unto every moment and its not getting me anywhere in life.Why do people like me do this?Why does the guy that fancies me hang around when he knows hes been rejected ?Im so cofused, please help!Its making me feel kinda small.Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): I think it's just being hopeful. When you are drawn to a person, there's this pull and you can't easily shake it. So you remain hopeful that the desire will be returned.
I'm in that situation right now. There are a couple of guys who really want to be with me and I haven't returned the attention but they keep at it. I'm just not interested. And there's a guy that I adore with all of my being and it's like I don't even exist to him but I'm still hopeful that someday soon he'll want me too. I wish I can just turn off the feeling but I can't.
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reader, Mittens 89 +, writes (11 September 2010):
Firstly never let ane man or boy make you feel small no matter what the problem. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
As for the guy who just doesn't get the picture how many men do. I know just how you feel. For the past 3 years i have been stalked by this guy who just doesn't seem to know i don't like you now or ever will. He wants people to see what he is doing, he wants you to know he there cause he knows that you will be talking about it. Try your best although not always to ignore him.He is looking for the attendion and this is something that he is getting from you.
Its not alwasy the best thing to put your life on hold for one guy. Most guys do give you hope for something big, but sometimes doesn't happen. People chance in life some people just need a wee push in the right direction. Let him know that you are there but your not going to wait for ever. Ur a young female you have plenty of time in your life to wait around for guys, but your to young to be doing it now. Live your life, if you show to him that YES, you can move on with your life it will show to him how mature you are in the whole sitution.
If you need more help or advice get in touch, there is plenty of ways to deal with things but lettin people make you feel small or putting your life on hold is not the way to go. Be strong you'll get the right man and their is still hope just don't let it run your life.
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