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writes:I am 16, my boyfriend is 17, I have met his family and we are very close but here lately I haven't been able to see him. He called me last night and we broke up, 20 minutes later he called me crying and I'm not sure if he wants to be with me or he just felt bad about me crying. I wish I could be in his head...Then today he called and was like I have a lot of stress and I want to go to party. I was like do what you want! He doesn't trust me to go party but he expects me to trust him!Do you think he really loves me or does he just don't know what he wants and why doesn't he trust me but expect me to trust him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): Let him go, hun. Yes, mutual TRUST is the key building block of a healthy relationship. I wouldn't trust this guy, as far as you can see him. You and he sound like you're both at opposing ends of the maturity spectrum here, with you being a lot more grown up. He's playing a game. He wants out. Look it, being stressed is okay but couples talk about problems together. But he wants out and the 'stress' thing is his way of saying, "I can't handle a relationship'. He's just not committed to continuing with this relationship. He wants to party down and have some'single guy' fun. Let him have it, but you go and have your fun too. .
I know you love him...but you need to move on, mourn him and recover. It will take time but you will regain some balance back, knowing you can and will carry on without him. At 16, life is exciting, it's vibrant and fun as heck...you have the world at your feet. You will date many more young men, after this fellow. And you should at your age. Dating is a learning and selection process, in one's adolescence. A time to interact with a variety of young people and find out just exactly what love relationships are about. You will be happy again..you have a lot to offer some decent guy who will love you back. Accept that this guy isn't him and if you date again. take your time and always hold out for the one who treats you the best. . Good luck Sweety
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 If you haven't done anything to lose his trust then he needs to trust you. Without trust, there's not much of a relationship.
I don't want to hurt you but it sounds like this guy doesn't know what he wants. :(
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