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writes:im 18/f hes 19/m :)so me and my best friend like each other (yes haha i have posted earlier on today! haha) the thing is, for the last 5 months that we've been insanely close for we haven't done anything sexual with each other at all, we did kiss once but he doesn't remember it cause we were both ridiculously drunk haha. We have sent pictures before, and sexted but thats about it. so tonight things started getting a bit heated between us, we were sexting pretty much and he was telling me how much he wants to have sex with me. and how he really is looking forward to the prospect of having sex with me when he comes back from tour. the thing is, he didnt even want to kiss me a couple of weeks back because he doesnt want to move to quickly with me, that im special and he really doesnt want to ruin things. He even told one of our mutual friends how insanely beautiful i am, that he feels something extremely real between us and he doesnt want anything to move to fast so it doesnt get ruined. but tonight he confessed that he does really want me sexually too. and how we should get together when he comes home. i do want to have sex with him, but in my head i imagined it being when we were official or something, if we ever dated. Im still a virgin, and i DO want to lose my virginity to him, hes my best friend and i trust him alot. I also confessed that i want him in that way too. and i agreed that maybe we should heat things up a bit...but what i dont understand...is why hes suddenly rushing to wanting to have sex with me? what happened to his fear of ruining things with me so much so that he was the one saying we should take things slow?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 I guess it is just his male hormones, deep down he probably does want to wait and not ruin things but then male hormones kick in and he wants to have sex with you. If you want my advice I think that you should wait it out. I understand that you want it to happen as well and that you trust him. But believe me virginity is a big deal and I really think it would be a lot better if you both waited until you were in a relationship before you do this.
You have only kissed him once and he cant even remember therefore instead of rushing in to sex with each other spend some time getting intimate in other ways. Kiss and be close to each other, make start having a little foreplay and touching as well but I really suggest leaving sex until you are both much closer on a intimate level and you are both in a relationship.
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