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writes:ok so ive been with my bf for about 2 years now and we both started uni this year.he doesnt have his lisence so he catches the bus everyday there and back. when i finish the same time as him i offer him lifts home aswell as his mates if they r with him but he always turns my offer down...unless his mates are like nah man lets get a lift with her. i dont understand why he never wants a lift home? i dont take him away from his mates coz ill give them a lift home aswell..im just trying to be nice.also when he is at uni he doesnt acknowledge me or say hi when he is around his friends. is he just being male with his mates or is there something more? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 April 2008):
 He could be suffering from inferiority complex due to his background and a lack of confidence.
He does not acknowledge you openly when he is with his
friends , so that they would not know the depth of your relationship
.His friends may tease him and make his life unbearable .
By right , he should not have any issues with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): I would say it is just him being macho man. I think you being the driver...he finds it embarrassing, he should be driving you around...know what I mean? Also, I think the only reason he doesnt talk to you is because he doesnt want to look soft and mushy - or he doesnt want his friends hitting on you? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): As 'Artistry' says, you should know how he feels about you by now because you've been together 2 years honey. But it seems to me like it doesn't really mean anything on his part. I mean, it's hardly the most masculine thing, getting a lift off your girlfriend. It's usually the guys that are stereotyped into giving their girls a lift - I mean, how manly does he look if his girlfriend drives him around? Not very! Plus, he's probably wanting some independence. It's real nice of you to keep offering him lifts when he's probably going to turn them down, so don't stop or he might think there's something up with you. Just, try not to be offended by it, I'm sure he doesn't mean anything. And if you really want to settle your mind, ask him about it - I'm positive he won't mind or anything. Good luck :]
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (28 April 2008):
 Hi, Two years is a long time to be together, and you should have sme idea of how he really feels about you by now. It may be that he doesn't want the ride from you, because it makes him uncomfortable that he cannot drive you around. I would not press the issue, and leave him catch the bus and so forth. Men have strong egos and I am sure he wants to try to be independent as best he can, same thing goes for the university situation, maintain some friends of your own, and allow him to have some space in your relationship, at times. You don't want to suffocate him and it is healthier, if you are doing something on your own, every now and then. If the rest of your relationship is going well, don't look for problems. If he is attentive to your needs otherwise, I would not worry about the rides. You both are still maturing and your relationship should grow as well. Take care and good luck to you both.
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