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Why does he love me hot and heavy for awhile, only to be cold to me later?

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Question - (3 May 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 4 May 2008)
A female United States age , anonymous writes:

I met this guy who is my same age (45) on internet dating service. We had everything in common, get along great. He pursued me, and acted crazy about me. He has told me he loves me many times. He surprised me and bought me a razor phone, and I dont have to worry about the bill, and he has given me other gifts. All the sudden I havent heard from him in a few days....I'v text him twice, and left voicemail to see how he was doing, and he has ignored them....which in the past he always replied. I dont understand what has happened....I keep thinking Ive done something to upset him. I cant think what it is. I do know that April 19th, he attended his ex wifes sons wedding, and he has seemed alittle distant since then. Should I just leave this alone....maybe never to hear from him again? What should I do about the phone and gifts? I just keep racking my brain wondering what Ive done to upset him. Please advice what U think might be happening. Thanks everyone for your help! :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008):

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Thanks to Mandy7 for her answers. They helped me look at the situation from a different angle. I greatly appreciate her help! :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008):

maybe he doesnt mean you hunny, Have you thought of that? He may mean other responsabilitys that he hasnt been open with you about..For one, He must have been thinking of you for a good few hrs to resend a text twice and yes probably a little drunk. There maybe something about his life you dont no sweetheart

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008):

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Update:

Tonight at 6pm he texted me "Too many demands on my life. Sorry! Scott.

Then he text me the exact same text at 845p....resent it.

I think he's been drinking to have sent it twice. I dont understand what the heck has changed his mind in a week about me. I was never demanding....never. I just always went with the flo of what he wanted to do. I texted him back the first time....."Its been fun. Good Luck. Talk 2 U later." The second one I sent said "Dont want to complicate Ur life. I'll be fine..."

But Im really crushed....dont understand what I did to upset him so. Thanks for everyone's help!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008):

Hi Hunny

If this were me Id wait untill he contacts you love, Do you no alot about him? Im the I need to get to know a person before they start giving me things, It just makes me uneasy I guess, He is paying your phone bill the best thing to do hunny is just hang on and wait...Dont go thinking to deep I no its hard but get on with your life, He is not going to pay your phone bill if he wants nothing more to do with this..Stop thinking you have upset him and start believing in yourself again hunny and dont contact him, He has your voice mail so he knows already that you have tryed ok love be strong and BELIEVE IN YOU! WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX :)

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