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writes:I met my friends friend a while back and we drank together and ended up kissing. He wanted to have sex but I said no and I found out he was a major player. We partied again some time later and he kept putting his hand on my butt, but I kept taking it off. Like everytime I was standing next to him, he would put his arm around my hip and then move it down to my butt. Why does he keep doing this? I already told him I wont have sex with him and I dont see him doing this to anyone else but me! I thought when guys get turned down, they move on to someone else so why does he still have his paws all over me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): Because some men do that. Because some of them can't take "no" for an answer. Let me tell ya, I've told men "I've got a man." And they come back with "Welll, that won't last" or (more recently) "Is it an open relationship?" A good friend of mine is married with 3 kids. When she was at Starbucks a man approached her and asked for her number. She told her situation, that she's married. He asked, "happily?"
Some men (ESPECIALLY the players) can't seem to understand when they're being turned down. You say "No" and they hear "I'm a challenge, but if you come at me persistently and consistently, you can wear me down." Its annoying. And your friend is crossing boundaries by putting his hands on your behind. Ugh.
Just keep saying no and removing his hands from you. Hopefully he'll get the message that no does mean no and he'll get bored, call you a not-nice name and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): It sounds like you are a challenge to him and it sounds like he is being a bit of an overpowering creep, even bullying you.
Tell him you are serious about not wanting him to touch you, and possibly even mention it to a close friend, so someone is aware incase he ever tries to take it further.
My overall advice is friend or no friend, keep away from this creep, for the time being at least.
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reader, brkn_hrted  +, writes (23 February 2009):
hes an idiot. dont go near him. whenever you see him coming over, send another girl at him or dance with another guy or whatever - eithier get him distracted with someone else or pretend ur taken.
alternatively he could be in love withy ou and this is his way of expressing it....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): You know what? the guy is a sleaze, next time he does it call him out, loudly, in front of everyone and make a big scene.
That's only way perv's like him learn. If he continues tell some guy friends that he's molesting you and ask them to have a word with him.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (23 February 2009):
 He may just be really persistant! Is he drinking when he does it because this can affect his judgement. Get him when he is sober and tell him to stop! If all else fails don't stand with him! This is an invasion of personal space and is sexual harrassment, if you are concerned then go to the police. X
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (23 February 2009):
it's a guy thing. sometimes when i am out partying with friends, i end up dancing with a random guy and after a few songs they try and touch your ass. all you have to do is move his hands away, if he keeps doing it just tell him that you don't want him touching you on your ass. don't let him do it if you don't like it!
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (23 February 2009):
He may just be really persistant! Is he drinking when he does it because this can affect his judgement. Get him when he is sober and tell him to stop! If all else fails don't stand with him! This is an invasion of personal space and is sexual harrassment, if you are concerned then go to the police. X
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