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36-40,
*uit playing games with my heart
writes:I dated this guy for almost 2 years, and he was acting distant and always ditching me for his friends so i broke up with him, hoping it would bring back the guy he used to be. He didnt come back, we spent the next 10 months together but "unofficially" a couple. On my birthday he told me he wanted me back and we began being boyfriend and girlfriend again, he decided it was too much to handle and he is lost and is not sure what he wants he loves me but he is lost... so we broke up after 6 months of being back together officially, now we have been apart for about 2 months, and i didnt see him for over a month and only spoke to him on msn, and via text, but he always calls me and asks me to go out with him so i am so confused, if i make him feel so lost then why does he keep calling me and wanting to hang out with me? he still tells me he loves me, and i love him so much, its just too hard to be in this relationship 'limbo' i want to say all or nothing, but i know he doesnt want it all, and im worried that he will never want it all with me. what do i do!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
It sounds to me as if he is scared of commitment but cant live without you love, So he is probably as confussed. I no this doesnt help you situation you need to talk with him and find out what is going on, Tell him you cant go on like this as you cant move on with all this I want you one minute and I dont the next, But I still love you..Explain he is confussing you and you need to no where you stand. Do this if you can face to face not over a txt or msn as words can get taken so differently like that and it is something that needs to be addressed now so you can get on with your life hunny TAKE CARE OF YOU SWEETHEART AND GOOD LUCK LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 you need to tell him that while you do love him, you are not prepared to wait around and play these games with him. he needs to grow up and realise that this is not the way adults live. he may just need time and space but he needs to clarify this for you. if he is planning on carrying on with this behaviour, then he needs to find someone else who is willing to be in limbo. basically, you need to give him an ultimatim in a way. after all this time you deserve to know where all this is going. if you dont feel that anything is going to change then you need to cut ties with him and move on
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