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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I want to ask advice about something that's been on my mind for a while.A couple of years ago, I was working in a big company and got to know the guy that was fixing the computers there, that owns his own consultancy business. This guy is in his late 40's and I am in my mid twenties. It was not sexual AT ALL.. I was not flirting AT ALL.. we just clocked up a good conversation, because his wife used to work in the same firm as me and we were talking about the same people we know...He is also an agent for a national celebrity here.. whose the same age as me.. a real rising star. When I left the company after being bullied out, I got in touch with the computer guy and told him about what happened and he gave me lots of info about what had happened to the girls previously in my position - much the same thing. Anyways, since we'd met, we kept in touch through email.. and I'd stopped by his work a couple of times to exchange CDs, have a coffee and find out about what's happening with the national celeb. I got to meet the singer through him, as he saved me a good seat at a concert a few months later.. a seat for me and my boyfriend.. while the computer guy and his wife sat somewhere else.... so even though it might sound suss.. it's not like that at all.But afte a while, it started to bother me how many emails this computer guy has started sending me. For a while there, he was emailing me every second day, asking how I was and what I was up to.. telling me he has gossip on the company I worked for, and that I should pop in for a coffee at his work sometime. I'd get annoyed with how many times he'd email me, but feel guilty for feeling that way.. so I'd send him a decent reply.. all about what I was up to etc. But he never really gave me decent replies to what I've said.... just kept emailing me the same old thing every couple of days - how are you.. how have you been? Anyways, in the past 6 months the emails have almost dwindled into nothing. The only reason I kept in touch with this guy was because I was a REAL FAN of the guy he's the agent for.. not because I have ANY FEELINGS AT ALL for this man.But I just don't understand what's happening at the moment.I'm currently training to be a journalist... and the guy knows this. He'll email me, and ask how the course is going... I will reply and say it's going well and ask if I can profile the national celeb... but I won't receive a reply at all. Then a month later, I'll get one of those emails again with the same ol questions.. "How are you, how's the course?" He's ignored my emails everytime I've asked if I can write a story on this guy.. or his son whose a budding musician as well.Whenever I see the computer man in town.. he acts all strange, like he's too afraid to talk to me.. ENTIRELY DIFFERENT from when I've visited him those couple of times in his workplace. I went to a concert they had recently.. and he was one of the organisers. I came up just to say hi and he couldn't even be bothered speaking to me... yet he'll continue emailing me..I don't understand. The only thing I can think of is what my boyfriend said.. that he won't talk to me when his wife is watching... but this just confuses me. There's NOTHING going on between me and this guy.. it disgusts me to even think about it...I always just thought of him as a friend that shared the same interests as me. The ONLY thing I feel guilty about, is that one time when I popped in for a CD at his work, I told him about what had been happening between me and my sister.. because she was very sick at the time and I was feeling very emotional and opening up more.Can you tell me what's going on with this guy? Why does he treat me differently in public when his wife's around? Does he (even though he's happily married) have some kind of unholy interest in me? I always assumed he just saw me as a friend with the same musical tastes.Any advice would be appreciated.Thanks
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