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female
age
30-35,
*pendy
writes:just curious..do all relationships start out soo nice you know always texting, late night phone calls all the sweet talks and they sweet things you do together, butterflies and all the nice feeling..then a few months down the line the guy completely changes and become so distant really irrated around the girl and doenst do the things he did in the begining anymore??just asking cos ive seen this happene alot of times.. to me and other girls complain about the same thing too:(please share ur storiesthnx...x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): These types of relationships are usually based on shallow things of attraction: projection as to the traits you think the other person should have but probably doesn't based on sexual attraction first and foremost. These relationships are not built on a solid foundation of friendship first and sex has usually happened early and often and is the main focus rather than getting to know the real person and sharing common values, thinking and tempermant stles, mutual respect, caring and having a future goal oriented purpose to life and relationships.In short, immature. Don't mourn the loss of such a shallow affectation....the real thing takes time and commitment, mostly what young men lack, commitment.Men don't really make great boyfriends until they feel ready to settle down and marry, and for some that never happens, so they are serial self centered monogomists...learn to tell the difference and don't invest more in a boy than he is investing in you. Never take yourself off the dating market for the option of being some guy's girlfriend....merely a plaything. Keep your options open and let the man step up to claim you as the one, until he does, you have nothing more than a nice pretend relationship.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): Not only guys cool off, girls also. It happens because novelty of relationship fades away, excitement dissapears and if there is no real feeling there boredom creeps in, and then when they become irritated and unhappy w/situation.
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