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writes:Why do women in the UK always praise dark hair?Has it become something that women say regardless. I never hear a woman , or extremely rarely, who says she prefers blond hair on men.I have seen two surveys done in the UK in the last four years which suggested that 16% and 19% of women rated blond as the most attractive hair colour on men.Yet socially, women always talk about dark hair as a preference, or that hair colour doesn`t matter. Is it viewed as unfeminine for a woman to praise blond hair?And in case you are wondering, my hair colour is a dark blond, and yep you`ve guessed it,women always tell me they like dark hair. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): Acutally every girl I've ever met or gone out with has told me that they prefer blonde haired scandinavian looking men ( I have black hair and dark skin) lol so they blaitently do it to piss you off don't worry.
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reader, neilevans +, writes (14 March 2007):
neilevans is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, i am hyper sensitive and i do feel the need to appear perfect for people. I suppose i just have to stop worrying about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): They aren't very good friends now are they if they can make fun of you but then again, you need to stop being hyper-sensitive.
Best Wishes.
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reader, neilevans +, writes (11 March 2007):
neilevans is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes. Thanks for the responses. I think i have suspected all along that they do it to wind me up. I actually like being fair haired as it makes me feel a little different from most other guys.
I`m also aware that extremely popular people like Brad Pitt and David Beckham are fair haired, so i think my point was more to do with why women talk to me about dark hair. Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2007): These women-that word is misleading as it seems like countless where in fact it may be only five of your close friends who poke fun of your insecurity of being a fair haired male.
So the whole context of this doesn't come across as completely reliable.
I suggest a change of perspective to battle this one.
That whole stop focusing on the minus and start focusing on the positive.
Just say not going to talk about this topic with you so let's talk about something else. And re-direct the topic. Eventually these "women" will get the message and won't even bother with this topic in the future.
Best Wishes.
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reader, neilevans +, writes (8 March 2007):
neilevans is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is i know that all women aren`t bothered about hair colour, and i know that all women aren`t into dark hair, but for some reason, when i feel low, it bothers me.
I know it is daft and i feel a bit embarrassed at the moment. I think women do it to wind me up `cos they know i am a sensitive lad.
Thanks for all your answers.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (5 March 2007):
 You need to address the women you are talking to about this. We have all given you our opinions on this matter, but it would appear that the ladies you talk to are slightly 'different'. Approach them and ask THEM why, as it is them you seem to have the beef with.
Good luck hunny!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): Agreed about this hair color thingy. MOst women hardly stay with the natural hair color these days and I thought it was penis size that men obsessed about? *shrugs*
The thing I look for and desire in a man is how loving he is and how respectful he is about women. Oh and honesty which is linked to his self esteem, self image believe it or not.
So...
Stop asking women what the big deal about women liking darker haired men...I have NEVER brought such a topic up for discussion...so I have big doubts all these women just begin discussing it with you. It just doesn't make sense.
Also...you either except you have your hair color and believe that not all women are about hair...and they aren't really-it's linked to other traits and what they perceive as sexy or you temporarily dye it to see if this changes how other women interact with you or not.
Best Wishes.
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reader, neilevans +, writes (4 March 2007):
neilevans is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your opinions. Believe it or not, the hair colour of a woman doesn`t bother me one bit. However, the title they have given my question is wrong. I wanted to know why....socially.....women always talk to me about liking dark hair. I know there are women who like blond hair, simply because it`s common sense when some British men are blond. But just because a guy is fair haired, don`t keep going on about liking dark hair. It`s boring.
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reader, NuttyGooner +, writes (2 March 2007):
 Though neilevans, I have to admit, you've posted 3 threads about women being picky about hair colour.
Give it a rest, and lighten up, stop obsessing over hair colour, there is such a thing as hair dye if it is that big an issue!
You can message me if you like, but please, stop whining about women not liking blonds/redheads etc - being paranoid about it is a huge mood dampener!
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reader, NuttyGooner +, writes (2 March 2007):
I've been out with all kinds of guys - I'm not shallow enough to pick a bf because of his hair colour, admittedly, the majory of my exes are blonds. It's about the whole package, if I was single, I'm not likely to say "I would date you, but here's a pack of Nice and Easy, come back in an hour when you've finished, and then we'll talk!" Lol!You need to lighten up a bit, my other half likes raven haired ladies, and I dye my hair red/plum, I've had bright purple streaks and pillarbox red slices and in my avatar my hair is a lurid Ginger! You're making a general perception, similar to the perception that all guys like Blondes!Anyway - Kiefer Sutherland is my ideal guy, and what do you know? He's a blond!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): THAT IS NONSENSE! I haven't heard that one before. Woman are not that shallow to just go for the hair colour. Full wallet yes, but hair colour, no way!
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): Well, speaking from my own preferences, I do tend to prefer men with very dark hair, (I think it may be because my mother has very dark brown hair and my dad is very blonde and blue eyed, and I did not have the best relationship with my Dad growing up) or at least it seems to be my preference more than any other color, but I can tell you that it is not a factor in my selection of a boyfriend or dating partner. It is far more important to me what the whole package is. My first serious boyfriend had brown hair and blue eyes, much like my own with natural highlights. My really long term relationship was with an Italian/Irish fellow with very dark hair and dark eyes, I later fell in love with another guy with sandy brown hair much like my own, the last two guys I fell for had very dark brown hair, one with hazel eyes like my own, and one with dark brown eyes...
Point is, I do have a preference, but it does not end up being a the thing that makes me fall in love, it is the whole person, character, personality, body, smile, kindness, loyalty and all those other things that win my heart, hair color only makes me notice you first, but there has to be something there between us to make a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): Willy, I do like Strawberry Icecream. Mmmm... Yummy....
No, but the aunts here are right - it's totally inaccurate to say that all people of a certain type are like this and that. It's like saying all men love big breasts, or all women love giant penises, or all cats are snobs, or all dogs bark loudly at strangers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): oh i think ur getting worried over nothing i have been out with guys who are blonde,dark,brown,ginger coloured hair. Women dont have a sterotype of a man they like a man for who is more so so dont be worrying about your hair colour.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (1 March 2007):
Look, if you feel so rotten about having blonde hair then just dye it and be done.
FYI: not ALL women like dark hair, that is like saying all men fancy Kate Moss or all children like strawberry ice cream. By generalising like this you are being a very closed and blocked off individual.
You need to stop obsessing.
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (1 March 2007):
 I think you're thinking about this wayyyy too much. Stop worrying about the colour of peoples hair. It doesn't make much of a difference. Hair is hair. Everyone has their preferences. Also, don't follow statistics, they are at times highly inaccurate. So just because of some statistics you're convinced that you're undesireable because you're blonde? Do you know how silly that sounds?
Just be happy with your hair colour and love the man you see in the mirror. I bet you've had a girlfriend before right? What does that say? You must be doing something right regardless of your hair colour. Blonde is nice, dark is also nice. If somone thinks one is better that the other does that mean that it's true? Put it this way: If I think apples are nicer than oranges...does that suddenly become a fact? If a lot of people agree with me (according to statistics) does that make it even more of a fact? Is that true for everyone? Has everyone in the world taken part in my fruit survey?
Ok you get the point lol. Love yourself and be happy don't let statistics get you down!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 March 2007):
 Move to the USA, we don't give a rip what color a man's hair is.
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reader, kenny +, writes (1 March 2007):
 I don't think you can say all woman like dark hair. Woman have got different tastes. Admitedly there are woman out there that like dark hair, but equally as many like blond or red heads.
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