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*rent87
writes:Hi everyone. I was wondering since I am a virgin and my fiancé is too should I go to the doctor for a checkup to make sure everything is okay? In other word in the up in up. Do people do that kind of thing? Or is it okay to not go to the doctor before the first time? What do people do in regards to the first time before the wedding? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2014): I think it's wise for both people to get tested for transmitted disease.Women should go to get a general evaluation, type of hymen they have, get vaccinated for cervical cancer if they're younger than 26, get birth control if they're not planing on having kids. Think of it like a regular eye exam or a regular dentist visit, it's not different...
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (9 December 2014):
You may both be virgins but you would need STD screening if either of you have ever had sexual relationships in the past where there was genital contact without pentration (e.g mutual masturbation or oral/anal sex)You would also be advised to have screening for HIV and Heptatitis etc if either of you have had additional risk factors in your life (e.g IV drug use, medical treatment in a high-risk country etc.)If neither of these apply, I don't see why a doctors appointment would be necessary for you.But it might for your fiancee if she hasn't had "Well Woman" checks in the past such as cervical screening. These should be done by all women regardless of whether they are (or have been) sexually active.And, unless you want to use condoms (or start a family as soon as you're married) your wife will need medical advice if she plans on using a hormonal method of contraception. It's better to get this sorted out well before the big day
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 December 2014):
 I did go for a check up with a Gynecologist before my first time, because I wanted to be on the pill BEFORE the first time. This was while I was dating my first BF.
It's not the most comfortable thing to do, but not a dumb thing either. However IF you want to wait, I don't really see the problem. PLENTY of people have sex BEFORE their first check up. Usually people ONLY go if there is something wrong or they want to be on contraceptive.
There are no rules carved in stone as to what you HAVE to do.
As for what males do? Well I'm pretty sure most males KNOW if their "equipment" works or not..... BEFORE they have sex.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (9 December 2014):
Unless you stuck your thing in some place it shouldn't be, then you are good to go. If everything is working great, no doctors needed, unless it the love doctor :)
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