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writes: I always find myself wondering about love. What love is, how it can be given to you, who chooses to love who, why it exists, when will it come, when will it go, where one anothers eye meet.People take love for granted sometimes... Cruel peopl manipulate you deceive you confuse you; rip your heart out, hurt you, crush you. Others enjoy the love, cherish every moment given, love you every way possible. Wether things are good or bad love always comes and goes. Love last, love fades.I dont believe because you love someone you wont hurt tyem because sometimes we as human beings hurt the person we love most. Why does this happen? Why do we hurt the ones we truly love?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): Well loving someone intimately means opening yourself up to be vulnerable. That means you can be more easily hurt by the person you love. However a good healthy love should not entail major and repeated hurts. If it does then it is dysfunctional and more a result of serious psychological issues in one or both people. Such people can still be intensely bonded to each other but I wouldn't call it love but rather an unhealthy neediness or clinginess born out of insecurity.
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reader, R1  +, writes (17 February 2013):
 I think this sounds like a question only you really know the answer to. why do you think we only hurt the ones we love?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (17 February 2013):
 It's critical that people hurt the one who they love. Otherwise, how could this music lyric be valid????
You always hurt
The one you love,
The one you shouldn't hurt,
At all.....
You always take
The sweetest rose,
And crush it,
'Til the petals fall....
You always break
The kindest heart,
With a hasty word you
Can't recall.....
So, IF,
I broke,
Your heart
Last night....
It's because,
I love you most,
of all......
Isn't that reason enough????
Good luck...
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 February 2013):
 I want to focus on a normal relationship without abuse and psychotic behavior. Abusers don't truly love in a sense that we understand. We hurt in love because we let relationships define who we are. A partner confirms our existense and importance in a world. We have a great need to be loved and valued by another person. When a relationship does not work out we blame ourselves for our faults and weaknesses. We feel like there is no point living when a relationship dies also.
We do take people for granted because it is not in us to stay in love with one person forever. Love is a state of mind but in relationships we love, as an action, because you want to other person to be happy. Love will fail if you put all your hopes into one person. That one person can't make your life a paradise. If you put that person on a pedestal one day he will certainly fall from it. Love should not hurt when it does it's probably because we have unrealistic expectations of what it is.
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