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writes:is it normal for someone to give up the chance of a holiday because they have to look after a fudging dog?my friends and i are trying to book a holiday, but one of them is being very difficult because she can't possibly leave her dog with someone else. it's so stupid. does anyone else do this or know of someone who is a pain in the ass and puts their dog before their own life? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): I can actually see where she is coming from. As sad as it may sound, my dog is my baby lol he is so spoiled and I hate anybody looking after him. I have been on holiday though and left him at home with my mum and dad but I still worried about him. Unless you like animals I don't think you would understand. Some people become very attached to their pets. As funny as it sounds how many people get excited every time you walk through the door and your dog obviously can never judge you so loves you no matter what.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (19 January 2009):
 It sounds like she has something else going on if she can't socialize or enjoy time with friends. The dog is an excuse, masking the deeper issue. If they didn't have a dog, she'd have to come up with something else.
I think a possible reason might be depression. There's also:a major case of shyness, or agoraphobia. She may have a panic disorder that keeps her from getting too far from the house.
I think if you really want to get to the bottom of what's going on with her, you're going to have to be very careful, cautious and patient. She may not want anyone to know about whatever it is that's keeping her at home. So try not to be angry or frustrated with her. She may be doing the very best she can. She may not be able to face it herself just yet.
So think about how you might find out what is troubling her, without destroying your friendship or harming her psyche.
Good luck, you sound like a concerned friend. She's lucky to have you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): LOL!!! I'm sorry, your follow up was hilarious.
But, yeah the extent of her problem seems a little too intense.
You should try to confront her, or get her some mental help.
I'm not trying to be funny or mean but, there isn't much you can do for her. If she choose to let her dog take over her life, then that is her personal issue.
Talking to her about it, is the only logical thing left to do.
Whatever happens, Good luck to your friend. :-)
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (19 January 2009):
aunty_rach is verified as being by the original poster of the questionher excuse is " she needs the company"
she has the rest of the family for company! it's sad and abit pathetic. one day she will have to move out of her family home and leave her dog. what then? will she become depressed and become a recluse because she has no dog. please!
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (19 January 2009):
aunty_rach is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut the point is, is that she lives with her family! her brothers are there and her parents are there. it;s a family dog! so what excuse does she have in leaving it!
she is letting her youth go past her because of a dog. she turns down dates because "she has to look after the dog".
she lets an animal rule her life and for a 22 year old that is pretty sad! it has stopped her getting a boyfriend, it has stopped her from traveling and having fun.
you can't tell me that it is normal!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): I hate to be the one to state this but most of the time psychologically, the pet could be taking place of something that is missing in the person's life, Majority of the time it is something missing emotionally.
Or it could just be that the pet has some kind of significant emotional value to your friend.
My dog for example reminds me of my nephew before he passed away. That is why i am so attached to my dog.
There are many possibilities to this question. Why not confront her in a nice polite and orderly manner, and just ask her.
You might be surprised, there is probably a really good answer for why she is treating her dog so special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): It's obviously not just a fudging dog to her - the pooch is probably spoilt more than any child would be. I doubt that she considers her fondness for the dog stupid either! The dog may even become distraught and pine for her if she did leave it with someone else, and she's got the dog's interests at heart as any responsible gog owner would.
Many people value their dog more than any human so she's not unusual in that respect.
Best to plan your holiday without her I think!
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