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writes:I am worried about the future of my relationship. I am dating a single father with a 5 year old son (his mother passed away). I get along great with his son, but i'm scared about putting too much energy into this. Also I get a little jealous at times. I love them both very much and always plan days for the 3 of us to spend together. Why do I have so much fear inside me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
It not easy bringing someone elses child up and I FOR ONE WANT TO SAY YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB!!!! AMAZING!
This fear is probably fear of loosing even though you dont realise it, You said it yourself you love them both and when you are a family the fear of loosing that closness and bond can overwhelm you. The jealousy is probably because your fella has to spend so much time with his little one and you dont have the quality time you would have if the little one were not around. Hunny thats normal to a certain degree your doing someone elses job as a mother you havent given birth to this little one, My partner bless him got abit stroppy a few weeks back and said we dont spend enough time together which is poppycock as we are always together but he meant alone, Thats because im a single mum. So I can understand you, I think your an amazing young woman to take on a family and plan these days out and Im sure your partner does to hunny, I hope this helped a little TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Tweets  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 I would first quastion yourself, why are you jealous? You sound like you are fearful that if you put too much energy into this and it fails you will lose 2 men that you love, the father and the boy. we all worry about the futures of our relationships, they are more complex when a thirs or more personschildren) are involved and we fall in love with all of them. Jealousy is not a healthy emotion if you want this to ever work. And what is you are afraid of, you need to answer that yourself. If you are enjoying the father's company and the child's, let the relationship with the father unfold as it may. Don't put yourself under all this stress. He is the one that is the parent at this time for the boy and it is his responsibiity to raise him. Good luck
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 Worries are like driving a car with the hand brakes on.You should live and enjoy from day to day and just leave the future to God...
You can read my article on this link;-
http://www.pinksuzie.com/2007/06/09/why-u-should-stop-worrying/
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