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writes:I am very confused. While I know I am very very much attracted to men, for some reason, I get turned on by thoughts of or watching girl on girl sex scenes and stuff. This is weirding me out a bit. Because I know that I want to be with a guy, kiss a guy, marry a guy, and everything else. I'm not attracted to girls in real life at all. Why do I get aroused by the stuff on tv? (about a year ago, there was a naughty channel on tv that didn't come in very clearly, but with my stupidity I didn't stop watching it. So that's why I'm like this. Luckily we moved and now there's not access to this channel, but what I've seen has not left me.) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010): I am a totally straight woman who also enjoys watching girl/girl stuff and sometimes fantasizes about women. I was really freaked out about it like you at first, but since then I have become comfortable with my own personal kind of sexuality. I kissed a girl once and it only felt strange, the way I felt during and after confirmed to me that I am straight. I just like the idea of it, and I like the way women look while making out sometimes.
So, from my personal experience, I can say you can be straight and still like the idea of girl/girl stuff. Don't let your curiosity freak you out. Enjoy the thoughts when they come, then let them go. Experiment safely if you want. But, don't doubt yourself too much. Good luck to you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 May 2010):
 Well, I will say what others say on here which is great advice, and advice I have received myself: stop trying to label yourself. You are a straight woman who wants to marry a man, but who knows to appreciate the sexuality of women. Could be you look up to them, a mature body, hoping you can one day be like that and experience those pleasures, could be you are curious about sex, could be you are a bisexual in the closet, could be you are straight but think women are attractive without feeling the need to be physical with them... it could be a million things. And none of them are any dangerous.
What I am curious about is what you mean by "aroused"? Did you masturbate to these women? Did you get wet? What exactly went on? Perhaps you were not aroused at all but something you believe to be arousal. Maybe you were simply fascinated?
I say not lucky you moved, but lucky you saw what you saw so you could start developing who you are and what you like. Just because teenagers shouldn't have sex and aren't legal until 16 or 18 doesn't mean they are children up until that point. You are allowed to fantasize and wonder and it is normal to be curious. Better to be aware of what the body looks like I say, than have sex the first time and not know what goes where...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010): Young minds are very impressionable, that's why pornography is not legally distributed to minors and why they need to be protected from it. If this was your first arousal from porn, then it imprinted on your mind even though you are not gay, your mind seeks that arousal because it is a pleasant feeling.
I do not know how you can get rid of these fantasies, they may just be a permanent part of your arousal pattern now. You can rest assured however, that you are not gay. This type of thing happens to women quite frequently because much of the porn out there is geered towards male consumption. It is nothing to be ashamed of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010): Your probz just aroused by watching girls be pleasured, I wouldn't think you need to "worrry" or anything it's normal
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