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writes:Why do I find it hard to leave a relationship where there is no love, intimacy and no respect? I believed I was more in this relationship than what he will admit to. I work with him and live with him, I dont have anything of my own. I believed we would stay together along time. Now I am unsure of where to go or what to believe in.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 Leaving is not easy because there are so many unknown factors when you are alone.You are living in a cocoon and there is protection and safety .
To venture out of your comfort zone can be a big challenge. You need to prepare yourself mentally , physically and financially before you can take the plunge.
If you want to leave, you need to plan and prepare for it.Get another job, be financially independent of him and get another place to stay and you will be on your way out.
If you cannot leave, then you need to change and accept him as he is.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (25 February 2008):
 Staying is easier. Leaving someone you have built a life with is hard. It is hard because you have a pattern with this person. You are comfortable. You have a home to go home to and you know what to expect when you go home. You have a person who is in your life and will likely be going to live a life alone.
The unknown is very hard to grab by the reigns but truly, if you are in an unhappy situation where there is no love, not intimacy and no respect I think you need work on changing the relationship so you get something out of it. If that is not possible or you've already been there done that then you really need to find the courage to grab the reigns of the uncharted territory. The first step is the hardest and then it just seems like things fall into place from there.
Take care and know you are not alone. Today you are only one of many people making this decision. Many of them will choose to leave for the promise of a better life.
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