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anonymous
writes:hey guys im so confused i dont have any attraction to any girl nor guy when i get close to a girl i sorta hype myself up and think i like that girl but i have no true feelings when i actually think about it please help me try to understand (im a 15 male)when i do get close to a girl i will really want a relationship but then a day later i will think again and there will be nothing there could i be over thinking things? should i commit to a relationship? Ps it could be the fact i cant make male friends and really want to have guy friends Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (29 November 2012):
 you are over thinking it... as a teen you are still figuring things out.
you can't commit to a relationship until you find someone you want to commit to.
you say you can't make guy friends... is there no one at school you are friendly with?
do you have anxiety or other issues that prevent you from being social? do you perhaps think seeing a counselor will help?
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reader, kitah +, writes (29 November 2012):
try not to keep over thinking it just firstly try and make a couple of male friends who then u could talk to about how u feel about females and relationships which might help u understand about how your feelings towards different girls and then a relationship might just happen but honestly dont get yourself all worked up about it though its normal not to feel anything towards people its just a sign their not right for you
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (29 November 2012):
Hi dear,
Don't worry if you don't have any attraction to a girl for the moment. There's this old song, "you can't hurry love" and it's true. Love happens (so does attraction). If you check all the time why you're not attracted to this girl or that girl, you just make yourself crazy. Sometimes in live I'm in a very happy mood, then I find everyone around me more attractive, at times I'm low and don't really fancy anyone. You sound quite worried and unhappy, so maybe you're not in the mood for flirting and getting a girlfriend right now and that's ok. Just find a way to feel better about yourself in general.
Also, doubts are very normal in the beginning phase of a relationship. You just have to give it some time. Meet the girl twice or three times before you know if this could be something. And don't feel obliged to start a relationship straight away. It's okay to take it slow and getting to know each other so you can build trust.
But why can't you make male friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2012): Perhaps it is the desire to want a male friend, but because you have difficulty making friends with guys, you're drawing closer to females for the company to fill the void, but then realising its not what you need because girls can't give you the male friendship a guy can.
That would seem to me the most probable cause, as I'm sure you would know if it was a girlfriend you were keen to find based on strong enough feelings towards a girl to want to be with her. Since you haven't mentioned that, I'm going to guess its likely linked to the desire for (but lack of) the company of a good male friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2012): your ways are crooked your thinking will be crooked your actions will be crooked your outcome in life will be crooked.
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