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writes:I made a male friend 3 years ago. He's is in the USAF and we met on a temporary duty. We kinda liked each other so became quite friendly and flirty , but never intimate. He left soon enough and started emailing since. We shared jokes, thoughts and keep in touch kinda stuff.A month ago he said he was getting deployed and couldn't said where, I asked him if it was to middle east and he said he couldn't tell. He just wrote a note 2 weeks ago saying it was cold where he was and that he wished he'd be here again. Since we are friends in Facebook and Myspace I found out from his family that yesterday he was sent to Iraq. I felt devastated to know he left and he didn't told me anything. I wrote him a note today wishing him happy new year and that although I know I'm the last one on his list, that I care for him very much and have him in my thoughts and prayers. Was I wrong to do that cause we have never been anything else but friends and long distance, but I have feelings for him and I feel really down right now....not only b/c he's in dangerous place but b/c he didn't considered me to know even that. Please advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): I also have a friend in the USAF and the same thing happened to me he was deployed twice now and was on orders not to tell anyone, even me and we've been friends forever. It's for their own safety that people not know where they are going. You won't understand it but it's just how the military works. He was also trying not to make you worry most likely, there is a war going on and a lot of our military is being sent there, my friend has been sent to Iraq twice now. He didn't do this to hurt you or to make you feel unimportant, it's just how his job works.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): how old are you ????
Did it occur to you MayBE he was under orders to NOT TELL you or anyone where he was going ?? IT is possible he has a sensitive job that doesn't allow him to tell people what he actually does??
Just because he's in the USAF doesn't mean that much, he could have a job he can not talk about.
Or,, he didn't realize how important he is to you, or maybe he just didn't want you to worry.
If you really are his friend and am concerned about him leave him good honest notes on his facebook. If he can access his facebook account (whereever he is) it will mean the world to him to show him you do care and are concerned about him. Understand he may NOT be able to tell you anything about what he's doing. If he can he will but if not you'll have to accept he can't tell you. It might be hard but if you really have feelings for him tell him even if he can't tell you back. If you're as important to him as he is to you, be patient he'll say so, as much as he can, when he can.
It's a big world and lots of times people who are in the military simply can't say what they do or where they go.
I've had friends and family in the military and they could NOT tell me anything about what they did.
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