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writes:Why did she end our FWB relationship? We only started it 3 months ago, and recently just began to have sex in our last month, we had sex 3 times, and then she just said that we should just remain friends.. She had been going through a rough patch with her ex, whom she's been on and off with for almost a year, when we met she was briefly single, and then she became single again 4 months later, so then she and I started chatting more, and then we began chatting more on the phone, we would go out in groups to parties, bowling, etc.. Then we started dating on our own, one thing led to another one and we began having sex, we had sex 3 times, and then she cut it off, by saying that she just wanted to be friends.. Throughout all of this, she would always mention her ex, it was OBVIOUS that she still would had liked to be with him, if he came back into her life. So we remained friends, and kept going to the movies etc, here and there, but NO sex, then she went on vacation, and when she camer back, we spoke and she told me her ex came back in the picture, and that as I know she still loved him, so she was going to try to make it work, because they have a lot of time invested with each other.. I am confused because we had a GREAT FWB relationship, why did she stopo it all of a a sudden, if her ex wasn't in the picture when she cut our FWB off, well at least I think he wasn't in the picture... Ladies if you can help, I'll appreciate it.. I do like her, but I didn't want to tell her that I did, because of rejection.. When we first started, she said she just wanted to take it "day by day".. Any advice will be appreciated.. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Like i said, yes she probably used you as a security blanket when things weren't going right with her ex. I think it's time you forgot about it and moved on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionActually I think she and her ex were trying to work things out, all while she would still chat with me, because we had sex twice in one month, and then we'll go out here and there but she wouldn't let me get passed a kiss, it went like this for almost a month, and she'll avoid seeing me as well, and then she agreed one night to see me, we went out had food, drinks, and then we had sex in my CAR! But she seemed angry, could it had been revenge sex all along? Perhaps her and her ex couldn't work things out again, therefore she used me as revenge sex, to feel good about herself... I say this because she then went on vacation, we lost contact for 2 weeks while she was away, then that's when she came back and told me that she was going back to her ex.. I think they were back and forth trying to work it out, but everytime it failed, she'll agree to see me.. Your thought?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): Maybe she realised that the sex part didn't feel right for her. I think for most guys sex isn't a big deal but for women it's a very emotional thing. She might have just needed some intimacy or comfort at the time.
This ex of hers has always been on her mind by the sound of it and it could be that she was just using you as a comfort blanket until she could get back with him.
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