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writes:ok this is short but I just can't understand it.. my bf blocked me from his facebook as soon I commented one of his recent pictures, (i said: how long is this pic?) and he blocked me after it. I am from the USA he is from Iraq, we have been together here for 4 years and his family knows me. I asked him why you deleted my comment and blocked me? he says, this not good that you asked how long is this photo... I am like what??? We are here in the USA in a committed relationship so why he blocked me?? I asked him again and again and he just says that my comment is not proper. really?? I am thinking he is hiding something from me..like in Iraq he says some stuff but here is different. I am just very sad and disappointed because I don't see any boyfriend blocking a girlfriend from facebook...
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (11 November 2017):
 Yeah this is a red flag. Perhaps you´re the only one taking this relationship of yours seriously. Even if he does acknowledge you in private when you are over there, that doesn´t mean that he´s ready to acknowledge you in public.
No guy would just block his SO on social media for something so stupid in my opinion so yes you´re right to be wondering what the hell is going on.
If it were me in your position then I´d let this relationship go but ultimately it´s your decision to make.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 November 2017):
 I would take him blocking you as a CLEAR sign that the relationship is over, then I would BLOCK and DELETE him from your life.
My guess is, he is Muslim and thus it's NOT appropriate for him to HAVE a GF. When you comment on his pictures it makes it hard for him to deny that you exist.
Stop wasting your time on a guy who not only lives WAY WAY far away but who is also from such a different culture that things like this will happen.
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reader, TylerSage +, writes (11 November 2017):
 Could be the culture shock. May people from the middle east aren't fans of Americans so maybe to avoid criticism he blocked you. It was wrong, mind you, but that could be the reason. It's like a undercover gay man having his flamboyant boyfriend post a comment under his picture. He might not be ready for it. he might not be ready for everyone he know to know you.
However, it's wrong on your end. The most you can do is let him know that you are hurt by him blocking you like that. Give him an ultimatum to give you an answer. Request that he unblock you. You could block him too but that sounds like it could lead to even more problems.
It seems like you guys are fine outside of this incident.
Talk to him and let him know you feelings are hurt.
All the best.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (10 November 2017):
 My guess is that YOU are the one he's hiding. People from the US aren't very well liked in Iraq for obvious reasons, and while you might have had friendly words in private correspondence, but you are a very inconvenient truth when it comes to his social circle, and that circle is on Facebook with him.
The moment you started commenting and displaying your affection in front of his family and friends who probably hate Americans, he most likely made up some story to them about how you're a stalker or that he didn't know who you are, and then blocked you so that your continued public communication doesn't let the cat out of the bag.
Add to that most likely that if they find out he's with a non-Muslim (you didn't mention whether you were a Muslim or not), that is a very grave thing both legally and religiously in the middle east.
This guy is passing time with you and is in it for the sex. You aren't worthy in his eyes or his family's to spend the rest of your life with, and his blocking you displays that he AGREES with their assessment of you. You are a warm body to him. Nothing more.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (10 November 2017):
 Because you are not the only female looking at his pictures. Guys normally do that to avoid other girls asking who is she that is commenting on your photo.
I would block him out of your life permanently.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2017): Red flag. Culture difference? Reliance on social media? Something is off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2017): Have you met this boy in person or are you exclusively on LDR? I don't see anything wrong in you asking him the date of the photo. Why should that offend him? TBH I think this boy wants to break off with you. He might be under pressure from his family to choose one of his own people for a wife. I honestly think you will be better off w/o him.
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