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writes:I had been dating Hannah for about two months, and I thought things were going pretty well. A few weeks into summer she went to her friend's cottage and she didn't tell me how long for. She got back and I tried messaging her and calling her, but she didn't answer and was never home. So, about two weeks after she left for the cottage we finally get in touch and she said she had been really busy lately with Soccer and family and stuff, and that her computer wasn't working. I was fine with it because I just wanted to talk to her. Then, a couple days after that she calls me and breaks up with me. She said it was because she was really busy and we hadn't talked in two weeks, but that, to me doesn't seem like a legitimate reason to break up. So, why did she break up with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): Write to her and explain exactly how you feel, and what u may suspect, and that u stil want to be friends with her, basically what you just told us...try to leave out that someone told you, but just say your gut is tellin you something at least. Either way, write to her, email or letter, or note.
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reader, Murch +, writes (20 July 2009):
Murch is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo I just found out through a mutual friend of my ex and myself, after a lot of coercing that there is another reason that she broke up with me. And somehow this did not help at all. I was already stressing at the possibility of another reason which was not helping me get over her, and now I find this out and I'm kind of freaking out with just confusion and paranoia. And now there's this kind of bumper zone where I wouldn't feel right calling her or talking about it now because its too soon and I do want to have her as a friend if that's all I can have and I don't want to ruin that. I've got to ask her what the actual reason is and I'm afraid. The mutual friend did tell me that it's partially something I did. I can't deal with this it's really stressing me out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): ur welcome im glad i could help
yea it does hurt sometimes i cry over my ex =/
but u kno it takes time and effort
but good luck
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reader, Murch +, writes (16 July 2009):
Murch is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou Christina. You're right. I should get over her. Which is what I'm trying to do. It's hard. So far not really winning that whole pain eating battle, but I don't know. And your advice did help. Thankyou.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): christina again.
ya i know what u mean.
maybe juss be single for awhile and give yourself some time to think.and u kno maybe u deserve better which im sure u have heard a lot =] but only bcuz its true. if shes too busy for you maybe it is time to move on..it is hard bcuz im tyrna get over someone right now...but trying is better than letting ur pain eat you..i dont think my advice helped but i sure tried =D
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reader, Murch +, writes (15 July 2009):
Murch is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey Christina, thanks for writing. I believe that she's busy. I guess the only thing that's confusing me is why we had to break up over it. I would've been fine waiting for her. I don't have to talk to her every day to be her boyfriend and it isn't like she is going to be busy forever.Hanging out with other people does seem like a good idea, but I doubt she'll be calling or making any kind of contact. I don't even know if she would care that I'm out with them because she did just break up with me because she's busy. It seems kinda clear that she doesn't care that much for me. And that makes me wonder if I want to get back together with her, even though I really like her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): hey im christina..
usually theres more to a story than juss one reason..
but it sounds like she really is busy
but maybe talking to her about getting bak together when things gett a little easier will be better for a relationship..
until then maybe start hanging around other girls and when she calls or text dont reply shell be wondering where U are..and shell be chasing u which is wat u should want
i wish u the best =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): In all fairness, only she knows the real reason.
Maybe she's just found someone new or she just does not have time for you. I can't say because I do not know her. I would say just accept it and move on, theres a lot of other girls out there.
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