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writes:He's an amazing guy and I love him and I know he loves me. He still pleases me but when it's my turn I just feel like I'm getting lazy. I don't know why. I don't want to have oral with him but it's not because I'm replused by him. I love everything about him. I just feel bad because he pleases me but I don't please him in return. Somebody please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe cheating thing, I wouldn't want to keep him happy. I'd leave him if he cheated on me. and there is drama its not boring in our relationship. I liked what you said though about being sexually selfish. it was a good term for how I'm feeling.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (9 July 2010):
 Really try to reflect on why you are getting lazy in the bedroom. It doesn't sound like it is him, as you seem happy in your relationship with him. Perhaps it is because things have become very routine in the bedroom? You talk about taking turns. When it is your turn... This makes me think that you now have a set pattern of who does what to whom and when when you have sex. This suggests that you have become somewhat bored of this, although you still love him and find him attractive.
So the obvious answer to me is, take charge and spice it up! Get rid of taking turns to please each other. Surprise him and give him oral in the kitchen when he's making a cup of tea. Surprise him with a romatic weekend in a hotel. Initiate sex when you don't normally have it. If you normally have sex twice a week on friday night and wednesday night, initiate it on thursday morning and thursday night! Then again on friday. Try to break the routine and you'll soon find you enjoy sex more.
If he asks where this is coming from, tell him you crave more excitement in the bedroom and he'll soon get the idea and try to be more inventive also. He sounds like a game guy.
Good luck :)
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (9 July 2010):
 Hmmm it could be a phase or maybe your bored,, has he brought it up... i would say if you love him so mutch just do it because you kno he will like it... once you start doing it you will get into it
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2010): He is a "nice guy" and you are a woman. Typical women don't like guys who treat them well and make them happy. There is no drama here and most women thrive on drama. Perhaps if he started cheating on you, you would feel threatened and want to keep him happy.
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