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*ambo427
writes:hi its been over i month me and my ex girlfriend have been broken up, neither of us really wanted to break up but it just ended up happening and i love her to death but we both did some stupid things that we cant forgive eachother for in that month, how do i get her off my mind, ive tryed talking to other wemen ... even put myself out there and had a few girls on the go at once seeing if i would like any of them or if it could bring me to be a happier person... but it seems it doesnt do a thing it just makes things stay the same and feels like ill never like another girl as much as i did my ex because we had plans of moving in, and she was also my first. we were together for a year and she just started getting jelous for me even talking to other wemen or going out with friends while she was at work... i stayed home because i loved her so much and didn't want to upset her... but then once i got tired of it i told her im going out with a couple friends and she freaked out threatened to break up with me and such... this happened a few times over and over and over. why cant i seem to lower my standards? and find somone more fit for me? that treats me better then she did... and why does my thoughts keep telling me to beg for her back... i really dont know what to do anymore she was honestly the love of my life and now i just feel completely alone, its like im living in a cloud ... really hard to explain it feels like i dont really care about much anymore i go to clubs... hook up with random girls and just dont give a shit anymore and dont know how to get my life back on track and her out of my mind. she texts me still every week approx and says stupid stuff like why did u call my fone? cuz she just looking for a response from me and the odd time she will say i miss you... and truthfully i miss her too and i tell her that but then 2 hours later she will say nvm i cant forgive u for the things u have done... which isn't anything bad i treated her amazing... and she just started lieng to me and sneaking behind my back saying she was home when she was out with her friends drinking at another dudes appartment... when i found that out i just got sick and tired of it, and we broke up and she claims she lied to me because she was scared of me? but im not a violent person emotionally or physically im the wudn't hurt a fly type of guy :s i just like to watch movies and cuddle with her and spend as much time as i could around her but how can i be with her if i cant trust her... i just dont kno what to do can somone please help
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 Oh dear this girl is all over the place, it seems she has low self asteem and is not ready for a healthy relationship, as for being scared of you this is her just trying to push the blame on you and you shouldnt let her, you need to let her go believe me dont contact her again.
As for meeting someone else no wonder you cant get a women because everyone you hook up with is just a rebound and probably always just makes you feel even worse than before so you also need to stop this.
This is what you have to do, you need to start being happy with being on your own first before you are happy with another girl. So go out with your friends and enjoy yourself, do things alone that you enjoy doing, you will soon start to forget about your ex and start feeling happy it takes time we have all had to do it, when you feel happy alone and you will then no when its right to start going on the dating game again, start it slowely by talking to a few girls, but dont just sleep with them take there number and get to know them before having sex.
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