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writes:Why cant I get a girlfriend?Everyone tells me to be myself and it never works. Whats wrong with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): hii...well, i obviously don't know you personally, buuut i'm pretty sure that there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you at all. my guess is that the right time for you to have a girlfriend...as well as the right person to actually BE your girlfriend...just hasn't come yet.i remember freaking out about this back when i was your age. it seemed like all of my friends had boyfriends or had ex's or even just fooled around with guys. aaand then, there was me...pretty much totally inexperienced and doomed to be perpetually single. OR so i thought. a few months after i turned sixteen, i got my first boyfriend. then, six months after that relationship ended, i got my second boyfriend. four months later came my third boyfriend. i am currently nineteen, and since the last relationship, i haven't been involved in another, buuut i have come pretty close several times. not bad for somebody who expected to be single forever.the bottom line: she's out there. she's just not here yet. just give her time, and live your life. ")good luck, and God bless,~sarsar~
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 February 2011):
 I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 16. At 13-15, girls are more concerned about girl friends and fitting in before they add a boyfriend to the equation.
Have you asked any girls out? Girls around your age are shy and aren't going to take the bull by the horns and ask you out. You need to figure out what you want in a girlfriend, and go find that in your school's dating pool. Need to do a bit of legwork to get what you want.
Give it some more time and it will happen.
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reader, Lorelai  +, writes (13 February 2011):
You're only young, please don't worry too much but I know you're going to anyway :P
The best thing to do is to get a good hobby, something you're really interested in and become really good at it! Girls like that! Don't give off a desperate/insecure vibe, be comfortable in your own skin (or at least pretend to be) and if a girl shows you a small bit of attention just play it cool, so many guys I know wreck it because they become desperate and needy and so the girl bolts.
It's sad but true :(
But remember that you don't have to be a jerk to get girls. Girls like confidence, talent, a genuine smile, laid back nature and a bit of a challenge. You can do it! Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): Im a girl in the same age group as you, and dont want to sound bigheaded but I am popular within my school. However, I know the difference between a genuine boy and a fake boy. There is nothing wrong with you, just take you time getting to know some girls that take your eye and go with it. If there is a specific one you like and it doesnt work out then dont worry because she wasnt the one! you are just a step closer to finding the one you will be with forever. hope this helped:)
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (13 February 2011):
 Hey bud, there's nothing wrong with you. The problem is that the popular girls aren't looking for good guys just yet. They're looking at superficial stuff, and they're going to have to go through a whole bunch of disappointment and heartache before they figure out that looking for good guys makes sense.
In the meantime there are a whole bunch of girls who aren't popular who are actually worth getting to know. And the difference between them and the popular girls is that they're more likely to treat you like a human being, particularly if you're being yourself. Just a thought.
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