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writes:Ok here the deal, Its kind of complicated but one of my best friends (Rach) went crazy at me today because she thinks i'm talking about her behind her back. Obiously I haven't, but no matter what I said I couldn't make her see that. So eventually I just stopped replying, just trying to limit the damage. Later I found out that another of my supposed best friends (Barker) was the person who told her all that I was talking about her. So not only am I angry at Barker for saying that, I have no idea why I said it. But Rach barely knows Barker and yet she took his word over mine straight away. I just need help on how to cope with this, Why are these supposed friends of mine trying to screw me over?I'm not even entirely sure who are my friends at the moment, any help would be much appreicated, thanks.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Ok her it goes
Baker is jealous of your friendship and trying to destroy it while getting a power position in the group by means of ruining your reputation u should talk to rachel and if she doesn't believe u look for new friends just in case
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): Prehaps they aint ur friends espeacially if they dont trust u !
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reader, x..HelpfulWun..x +, writes (19 January 2007):
 ive read your comment, lots of people are in the same postition.
that happend to me once, and what i think is that maybe just maybe their not your true friends,especially if rach doesnt listen to you.
(this letter isnt very good, its my first time. good luck.!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): i would say to get barker and rach together and talk it through and see what barkers problem is. i jus think that barker might be jelous of your friendship with rach and wants 2 see you two fight and not talk to each other any more. if rach still is angry at you, i would just leave her alone after the three of you sat down and talk, bdw i would cut all ties with barker as he is not a true friend.
post to me if this works
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reader, tinklinglaughter  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 If you haven't been talking about Rach behind her back, and Barker has just been lying to her, why don't you suggest to them that the three of you talk about it together in person? Y'know, tell Rach that he was lying and to prove it, you'll question him about it in front of her, and in front of her call Barker to fix up the meeting. If Barker has been lying or twisting your words around, it is likely that he will refuse. And Rach will hopefully see the fact that those were just lies. If he agrees, then you should be able to sort things out. If, however, you did say something bad about her, you should talk to Rach and explain your reasons as she is understandably hurt by it. As for why Barker told her that, he himself will be able to best explain that to you.
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reader, Nikita +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Well, I guess she cant be that much of a friend if she truely doesnt believe you and has taken someone elses word over yours, especially when you've tried to convince her you didnt say things about her. I dont know why she doesnt believe you. Have you said anything behind her back before to make her suspicious this time? The only thing you can do is to try and keep convincing her that you're not guilty of this and that for some reason, your other friend is lying. Some people just seem to get off on being two faced, for whatever reason; insecurity, boredom. You may have to class these two as ex friends if this cant be resolved. Good luckx
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