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writes:ok a while back i got a really good job that i liked fairly well, as much as you can like a job where you make 7.60 and hour. 7 months later we got a new manager. I really fell for him. i mean completely. i was having a lot of family issues, stress, and just a really bad couple of months. So i was having problems concentrating on my job and basically whenever my manager would tell me to do a better job, stop slacking, etc. i would get in an argument with him, because i was honestly doing the best job i could. so we would argue on some days, and he would flirt with me on others. Kind of threw me off a bit.Eventually i got fired. I only saw him twice after i got fired (it's been 4 months) but i fell in love with him for some odd reason. and now i can't stop thinking about him. i try really hard to just get over him. but i can't. i just don't know what to do i'm truly in love with him and i know it's unlikely that anything will ever come of it seeing as how he fired me so he probably doesn't care about me. but i care about him and i'm mad at myself for not being able to forget about him and i want to move on but i really can't. what should i do?!?!?! i know this is an extremely stupid question and i feel retarded but love is blind. and i need some help.thanks in advance to anyone who bothers to answer this question.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (28 November 2008):
 Sometimes stress makes us go a bit crazy. You need to get a new job and a new life and not dwell on this boss. It may be that you fancy him because he had the power and some women like a man in charge, but he did fire you. If he really wanted you, he would have taken you aside and spoken to you about how to keep your job. Maybe he fired you because of the way you acted with him and he didnt want that as well as the other reasons. Put him aside and find a new job and other interests to help you move on. I cannot see any good coming of your obsession with him. hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys for all your answers..
uncle phil- i agree, maybe if i hadn't argued with the boss i wouldn't be in this situation now. but.. i'm stubborn and when someone is telling me something i don't agree with.. the words just flow. i do need to learn to control that.
i am mad that he fired me.. i have bills. but i still can't get over him. & i was VERY pissed off when i found out. but still.. i even saved him from getting his *ss kicked by one of my friends at a party. I still have no clue why because it was only a week after i got fired.
and qcumbr1- i wish i could go run into him, and i would, but i work at a sort of theme park and it's almost $40 to get in. so.. not an option lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): It never makes good sense to argue with the boss. I guess the inevitable happened and he got tired of it.
Love may be blind, but I'm sure you're not. If I were you I'd be more angry than in love! The best you can do is forget about this experience and move on. You know there's no future in it so why break your heart over something that's a non-starter?
And remember - don't argue with the boss - it's not best business practice!
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