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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. I fell in love with him the moment I met him. I had the strongest feeling he was the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with and I was positive I would never want anyone more than I wanted to be with him. He says he is in love with me and that is all I ever wanted until now. 4 months ago I met this other man at a store he worked at. He wouldn't stop flirting with me and was purposely holding me back when I told him I was in a hurry. Later that night I was thinking about it. When I was going to check out, for some reason I wanted to go to a different checkout counter than his. I didn't realize I was attracted to him and thought if I would have flirted back he would have asked for my number. He made question my feeling for my boyfriend and I worried about it daily. I went back to the store and asked for his number. We talked on the phone and realized I wanted him more than anything in the world. He said he was attracted to me also and when I asked him out he would always find some excuse. He is everything I want in a man and I cannot forget him. Things were as perfect as could be with my boyfriend until I met him. I need to either forget about him (which I have tried for 4 months) or be with him? The desire is eating me alive.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 January 2010):
There is no love at first sight, lust at first sight, yes. Love is deeper than what you see on the outside.
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reader, LUV2HATEU +, writes (11 January 2010):
LUV2HATEU is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThere are plenty I mean plentyyyy of men that pay attention to me and It doesn't affect me at all. That is why I emphasized that no one has caught my attention until now. I am not easy or delusional but I definitely did chase this dude away. I sometimes think I did it on a subconciuous level to save my current relationship. Does no one believe in love at first sight anymore? And by the way I told my boyfriend exactly how I felt about this dude and he still chose 2 stay with me.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 January 2010):
It sounds to me like you cling onto whoever pays attention to you and has a penis. You barely meet these guys and you're suddenly in love and want them to be yours. Do your boyfriend a favor and dump him because obviously you don't want to be a relationship and gain some self control. Guys come and go all the time, don't become so infatuated with people you don't even know that well and certainly don't ask other guys for their numbers or out on dates when you have a boyfriend. Also, don't be so easy. You're totally chasing after this guy and that's probably why he's turning you down.
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reader, justinthyme1954 +, writes (11 January 2010):
 LUV2HATEU,
Base on what you have written, it seems to me that you are not ready to settle down with one boyfriend. A phrase I have learned from a dear friend is this. "Where is the fire?" Meaning why am I in a hurray.
In your situation, why are you in a hurray to find the "perfect" guy to spend he rest of your life with?
My advice is to take your time, play the field, date other guys and give yourself the permission to do that. If you do you will have a better idea of the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Don't short change yourself, have fun before you are tied down to one man for the rest of your life.
Seize the day!
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