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writes:Okay me and my boyfriend have been dating over a year. Ive only met his mom once, 2 of his friends once and that was a year ago when we first started dating. He doesnt take me around anyone for whatever reason because he says im boring. Our relationship is boring to be honest all we do is stay home and watch tv on weekends he goes amd hangs out with his friends. His best friend that he hangs out with the most absolutely hates me and his mom hates me. He goes to church as well and doesnt take me around any of his church friends. One of his friends that he goes to church with is getting married and he's not taking me to the wedding like he said he would. I feel like me and his friends and everyone he knows is two seperate things in his life. As in he has to keep us seperate for what ever reason. Ant idea or tips on what to do.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 February 2014):
 This is way beyond having NOT met his family and friends…
This man deliberately excludes you from his life. I am not sure if you are sexual with him at all but if you are CUT IT OUT… that will REAL FAST tell you exactly where you stand with him but I’m betting on dirty little secret and handy penis holder.
He says YOU ARE boring and yet he spends TIME with you when NO ONE ELSE is available.
IF you are boring and don’t go out, and don’t have any other activities other than staying in when he is free and you providing sexual release for him (either intercourse, oral or hand jobs) then you are nothing to him.
I personally would not stay with a man who says I’m boring. I’d say “sorry I bored you (past tense) I hope you can find someone UNBORING for your oh so very exciting life.” THEN DUMP HIM and find a man who treats you properly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2014): Are you a different race or religion from your boyfriend?
Is he ashamed of your appearance? What gives? You're leaving out stuff.
Usually when someone hides you from the public; it's because it keeps you isolated and feeling alone. It gives him better control. The fact you take his word that his mom and friends don't like you, might be a hint that he decides everything in your relationship. You are passive and very submissive to his decisions, and you don't stand up for yourself.
Another reason guys hide their girlfriends is when she has an expiration-date. When he gets tired of her, he can cut all ties; and she has no means to reach him when he goes no contact.
Have you ever called his mother to see if she wanted to have lunch or go shopping? Do you have your own friends and get to go out on your own, since he thinks you're too boring for his?
My guess is that he is the center of your universe, and what he says goes.
Be more independent. Invite the girls at work out for a drink. Take a cooking class to get of the house, and have something to look forward to; and to make some new friends.
Get a hobby or craft to make yourself more interesting, and to have something you can share and talk about. Get in-touch with your creative side.
Photography is an excellent hobby for people who are introverted. They usually live inside their heads, have hidden talent, and keenly observe just about everything!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 February 2014):
 What are the reasons his Mom and best friend hate you? How do you even know they hate you or is that just what your boyfriend tell you? I for one wouldn't allow myself to simmer on the back burner while he goes out and socializes, why do you? Of course I also wouldn't be with someone who thinks I'm boring, why are you?
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