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writes:Maybe, I am crazy. Recently, my wife's cousin came over to visit from Florida. He stayed with us for 4 days and I felt something that I never felt before, like nervousness. My wife noticed it and she asked "Are you jealous of my cousin?" I replied no. She says, they are just very close. Why will she ask me like that? Is she being defensive?Why am I feeling these doubts or suspicions about my wife?Are my suspicions correct?
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Clearly you are threatened by the close relationship between your wife and her male (I presume) cousin. And you are projecting this fear on all those around you.
Be assured that this fear has nothing to do with your wife and everything to do with your lack of trust. If their relationship is platonic, and your wife says as much, then you can either take her at her word (i.e. trust her) or turn yourself into an insecure, clingy, controlling jerk.
It's not too late to show some respect for your marriage and trust your wife. Good luck and take care.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (13 November 2008):
 Sometimes cousins are closer than siblings as far as things in common and being comfortable together.
I really doubt your wife or he, have romantic feelings! LOl Not to make fun of it since you seem upset, but if they seem close like brother and sister, than that's the energy they have and there is nothing to be worried about.
I guess you might see them as an example of what its like to be close and you might not feel you have that with her?
Don't be worried or jealous. They are family and have a history. Try to be friends with him !
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