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writes:I'm in a friendship group of 5/6 girls at school and I feel like that I'm the one making all the effort with them, and that if I didn't talk to them first then we wouldn't talk at all. Like they usually don't even acknowledge me if I'm stood with them. If they're talking and I'll say something then they'll answer me back or whatever, they don't ignore me when I talk to them, its just that they never speak to me first and it makes me feel like I'm not wanted. They don't even say hello unless I say it first. The only time they'll speak to me first is if there are no "better" options and I sometimes feel left out. I always go out of my way to try and make sure that no one feels left out.Today my friend (Sarah, one of the only friends who always makes an effort with me. I know she feels the same way, but doesn't like confrontation so would rather just ignore it) told me that they were planning to go on a bus to prom but they didn't even think to mention this to me. It just makes me feel unwanted, why do people act this way? How can I get them to make more of an effort. I feel that if I didn't make so much effort then we wouldn't speak at all Reply to this Question
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (5 March 2013):
 In time you will build the confidence to attract and hang out with true friends who understand you and want to be around you. You are experiencing the typical high school "cliques", where either you fit in or you don't. I'm sorry you have to experience this angst right now. Just know that this experience is teaching you what is and is not a good friend, and the pain it is causing you will make you kinder and more considerate to future friends who don't fit in as much, but make wonderful friends. Surround yourself with people who value you, not because they are popular. I know it's hard right now, but you're becoming a better and stronger person / friend because of it. Also you should hang out with Sarah one on one more often, without the other girls.
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