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female
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anonymous
writes:Okay so this guy ive been dating for 2.5 years just broke up with me. we went out when i was in 9th gradeand mutually seperated then he went out with this one girl on a bet and ended up kinda liking her...she cheated onhim and he cheated on her ... and they only lasted that summer.. then we started liking each other again and he broke up with her to go back out with me.. and like he always told me he never really liked her and he missed hermore on the phone than in person cause he said she wasnt that pretty but she is kinda. well since then we've beendating since and im in 11th grade so a year and half not counting before..we did everything together i mean everythingand this past summer he kissed another girl and omg he was so upset cause he hurt me really bad but i gave him anotherchance cause i believe in 2nd chances and i told him i pinky promised i wouldnt bring that up again but i did like quite a bitand it upset him alot and he is very emotional and gets angry easily, also he said that i was controlling him cause he said i didnt let him talk to girls but he did the same thing with me, certain guys he didnt like me talking to. Also he said i neverlet him have time with his friends but he always told me he wanted to just be with me so i was like okayy, and even on hisbday he came back up from florida to be with me for 2 weeks and arrived on his bday and i told him that he could hang outwith his friends cause its his bday and he wouldnt want to sit at my cheerleading practice for 4 hours but he said no im going cause i want to be with you.and right before he broke up with me last week my friend told me things about that girl that he cheated with and they did stuff wayy before and i was like thats not true so i went to her and talked to her and she said you know what happened dont believe other people and stuff. and the bad thing is,,,is that i went to my (ex) boyfriend and asked him if he did anything and he got really mad and upset, so after i talked to her i felt so much better cause i knewnow me and my (ex) boyfriend would be normal and i felt so good, and then the next day he broke up with me and said i didnt trust him and i was controlling and i was so in shock. later that day we were talking again and he said he missed meand we were just more than friend and gunna work on things and see from there and he said he could still see himself marrying me and i was like okay good. that morning i texted him and told him that its so hard to be his friend cause we arent together and i doesnt feel right but i will be willing to be your friend and then he just stopped talking to me completly and i was so devastaded i called and called and lefft messages and tried to talk to his friend that is living with him and hisfamily in florida and he siad to move on, but its hard to just do that. so my parents got involved .. and i told them things iknow i shouldnt have but i did and my mom starting texting him and leaving him mean things and his friend cause well hisfriend told her to stay out of it and i think that made my ex mad. and all these people were talking to him saying and pressuring him and he thought that was me telling them to do these things but i wasnt cause he told me that he needed timeand space and his friend told me that too.. and i said okay.. but more people got involved and i think that pushed him awaymore, he deleted me off his myspace and i saw his ex on his top 8 and i was like oh great. so then i went to her and talkedto her and she said they are just friends and i cried on the phone to her and i told her to treat him like a son cause my ex'sparents weren't getting involved and she said she would and i trusted her. He eventually started talking to me this past weekand at first he was yelling at me and cursing and said im phsyco and all this stuff, never wants anything to do with me anymore. and so we talked and talked and then he said that we will only be friend nothing more ever again, he said he lostevery feeling for me and i told him "your my first love and always have a place in my heart" and he told me that i wasnt his...!he said that his ex was but thats a lie..he also said there was someone else and she makes him happy... which happens tobe her... and she has a boyfriend but i know deep down she still loves him... and everyone knows im his first love.. and we were each others first.. we were each others life and he called me my name with his last name and said that he cant wait tostart a life with me and at my brothers wedding he looked at me the whole time and then said that everything the preist saidwas how he felt for me.. and told me to promise him to wake up next to him for the rest of our lives..and he said i make himstronger and how we were meant for each other and i was his one.. and nobody could ever break us up.. and said i was hislife so thats why im so confused cause now again he says its over for good and never wants to seee me or hear from meagain.. and i dont know why?? plus my bday is in 4 days how could he do this to me.. and how could that girl... i went onher myspace and saw he commited her and said i miss you baby, so much. and commeted her pictures and called her sexy... how can he do this to me..?? i mean when we broke up he was gunna give me another chance but all of a suddenhe falls back in (love) with her so quickly..and he just doesnt want anything to do with me..and i still dont believe it but i guess i have too, and his friends said what he's doing doesnt seem like him. he told me that my parents ruined it by doingwhat they did but i begged them not to, and he hated them after all they have done for him. treated him better then my ownbrother.. and this other girl's family absolutly hates him so i dotn get it... i want him back so bad but im trying to get over itbut its way too hard. i mean we were each other's life.. he always slept over my house,..his friends were my friends...we did litarly absolutly everything together and we pinky promised each other to never break up. i mean he told people thati was his fiance.. i mean how do you just completly stop feeling for someone who has been such a large portion of ur life.i mean he went to all my cheerleading competitions acrossed the US and went on all our family vacations, everywhere. and when sometimes he couldnt be at my comps cause we had a long distance relationship for awhile i would buy him thingsand send it to him.. and he would be supposedly coming back in like 2 weeks but now a couple more months. but it wasntalways long distant, he moved to florida 2 months ago and came back to va often to see me. i mean what do i do.. i want toget him back but he says im not welcome at his house ever again and its over but i just dont believe it... i want this girl tostop cause she is a rebound girl, to me. and we are sorta friends and im going over her house later to just talk to her.i cant make something come back to me but i want him to so bad.. i need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): WOW girl thats a long message !!! I don't even know where to start .....maybe you should shorten the question a bit and not space it like that ......I'm not complaining or trying to be rude .....If you want my advice MSG me privatly I will be able to answer you better that way.:)
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